“Or you’re told that you’re “in your head too much,” a phrase that’s often deployed against the quiet and cerebral. Of course,… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“It may be that some disadvantaged kids who get into trouble suffer not solely from poverty or neglect, say those who hold… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“In a sense, Csikszentmihalyi transcends Aristotle; he is telling us that there are some activities that are not about approach or avoidance,… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“We live with a value system that I call the Extrovert Ideal—the omnipresent belief that the ideal self is gregarious, alpha, and… — Susan Cain Extrovert Copy Share Image
Flow is an optimal state in which you feel totally engaged in an activity...In a state of flow, you're neither bored nor… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“At IBM, a corporation that embodied the ideal of the company man, the sales force gathered each morning to belt out the… — Susan Cain Business Copy Share Image
“The evangelical culture ties together faithfulness with extroversion,” McHugh explained. “The emphasis is on community, on participating in more and more programs… — Susan Cain Evangelical Copy Share Image
“We consume indie music and films, and generate our own online content. We “think different” (even if we got the idea from… — Susan Cain Indie Copy Share Image
“A mountain of recent data on open-plan offices from many different industries corroborates the results of the games. Open-plan offices have been… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“Even though we can reach for the outer limits of our temperaments, it can often be better to situate ourselves squarely inside… — Susan Cain Comfort zone Copy Share Image
“I need a break after school," she told me later. "School is hard because a lot of people are in the room,… — Susan Cain Communication Copy Share Image
“In fact, the very thing that many high-reactives hate most about blushing— its uncontrollability— is what makes it so socially useful. “Because… — Susan Cain Blushing Copy Share Image
“How is it that Asians and Westerners can look at the same classroom interactions and one group will label it class participation… — Susan Cain Deep thought Copy Share Image
“Public speaking phobia has many causes, including early childhood setbacks, that have to do with our unique personal histories, not inborn temperament.… — Susan Cain Children Copy Share Image
“Because conflict-avoidant Emily would never “bite” or even hiss unless Greg had done something truly horrible, on some level she processes his… — Susan Cain Guilt Copy Share Image
“If you’re an introvert, find your flow by using your gifts. You have the power of persistence, the tenacity to solve complex… — Susan Cain Extrovert Copy Share Image
“when she died in 2005 at the age of ninety-two, the flood of obituaries recalled her as soft-spoken, sweet, and small in… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“So? You don’t have to be an extrovert to feel alive!” True enough. But it seems, according to Tony, that you’d better… — Susan Cain Extrovert Copy Share Image
...I also believe that introversion is my greatest strength. I have such a strong inner life that I’m never bored and only… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“They prefer to devote their social energies to close friends, colleagues, and family. They listen more than they talk, think before they… — Susan Cain Close friends Copy Share Image
In most job interviews, people say they are looking for people skills and emotional intelligence. That's reasonable, but the question is, how… — Susan Cain Emotional Copy Share Image
“Cancel your next meeting,” he advises. “Don’t reschedule it. Erase it from memory.” He also suggests “No-Talk Thursdays,” one day a week… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“Whoever you are, bear in mind that appearance is not reality. Some people are like extroverts, but the effort costs them in… — Susan Cain Authenticity Copy Share Image
“To ask whether it's nature or nurture, says Kagan, is like asking whether a blizzard is caused by temperature or humidity. It's… — Susan Cain Evolution Copy Share Image
“…introverts, who sometimes feel as if their propensity for problem talk makes them a drag, should know that they make it safe… — Susan Cain Introverts Copy Share Image
“Use your natural powers—of persistence, concentration, insight, and sensitivity—to do work you love and work that matters. Solve problems, make art, think… — Susan Cain Focus Copy Share Image
“Amazingly, neuroscientists have even found that people who use Botox, which prevents them from making angry faces, seem to be less anger-prone… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
Eleanor Roosevelt, Rosa Parks, Gandhi — all these peopled described themselves as quiet and soft-spoken and even shy. And they all took… — Susan Cain Body Copy Share Image
You can't pick up a business magazine ever without seeing the word 'collaborate' splashed all over it. I think people are probably… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
...if you can think of meetings you've attended, you can probably recall a time - plenty of times - when the opinion… — Susan Cain Meetings Copy Share Image
America had shifted from what influential cultural historian Warren Susman called a culture of character to a culture of personality, and opened… — Susan Cain America Copy Share Image
“But the same receptivity to experience that can make life difficult for the highly sensitive also builds their consciences. Aron tells of… — Susan Cain Ethics Copy Share Image
“He was more interested in listening and gathering information than in asserting his opinion or dominating a conversation. He was also widely… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“We perceive talkers as smarter than quiet types—even though grade-point averages and SAT and intelligence test scores reveal this perception to be… — Susan Cain Intelligence Copy Share Image
“it makes sense that introverts are uniquely good at leading initiative-takers. Because of their inclination to listen to others and lack of… — Susan Cain Introvert Copy Share Image
“That’s because top performers overwhelmingly worked for companies that gave their workers the most privacy, personal space, control over their physical environments,… — Susan Cain Personal space Copy Share Image
“It’s also why exhortations to imagine the audience in the nude don’t help nervous speakers; naked lions are just as dangerous as… — Susan Cain Lion Copy Share Image
“Spend your free time the way you like, not the way you think you're supposed to. Stay home on New Year's Eve… — Susan Cain Free time Copy Share Image
“I want to change the world in my own way. So I do stuff that’s artificial. I don’t really like being the… — Susan Cain Change the world Copy Share Image
“At the onset of the Culture of Personality, we were urged to develop an extroverted personality for frankly selfish reasons—as a way… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
