People tend to criticize their spouse most loudly in the area where they themselves have the deepest emotional need. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
If we can develop the character and work with God, then let him develop the character of Christ in us, we're going… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“It is a fact, however, that when we receive affirming words we are far more likely to be motivated to reciprocate and… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
One of the things I say is, 'You cannot control your spouse, but you can influence your spouse.' And one of the… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
We cannot rely on our native tongue if our spouse does not understand it. If we want them to feel the love… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I think one of the myths is that people don't change. A lot of people believe that. Their spouse has been an… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
We are trained to analyze problems and create solutions. We forget that marriage is a relationship, not a project to be completed… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Negative feelings are more often alleviated when they are ignored rather than pampered. When you act positively in spite of negative emotions,… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
We all desperately need love. If a spouse in a difficult marriage will learn the love language of that spouse, and they… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Physically abusive and verbally abuse marriages are very, very difficult situations. I fully understand people in those kinds of marriages who think… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Instead of cursing the darkness, light a candle in your own heart. Say to God, “If you will give me a vision… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
When you're married, the person you would most like to love you is your spouse. And if you feel loved by your… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
For a long time, I have been wanting to write a book for singles that would help them in the dating process… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I think another [myth] is that some marriages are just hopeless. This is a common thing I hear from people, "Well, I… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
We can certainly see contemporary examples of people who radically change. As long you believe your spouse will never change and you… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I wrote this book [ Desperate Marriages] because of my own marriage. My wife and I struggled greatly in the early years… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“I would like to make three other observations. First, they illustrate clearly that what we do for each other before marriage is… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“With enough criticism, you may get acquiescence from your spouse. He may do what you want, but probably it will not be… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
At the heart of mankind's existence is the desire to be intimate and to be loved by another. Marriage is designed to… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
The human race could not go on without reproduction, and marriage creates the most secure environment in which to raise children. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
In reality, relationships that are successful tend to take the attitude, 'How can I help you?' 'How can I enrich your life?'… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“There is a third truth, which only the mature lover will be able to hear. My spouse’s criticisms about my behavior provide… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
This is a huge thing if you are going to have a positive impact on your spouse. You have to not only… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
The fastest way to have a loving, supportive, understanding spouse is to become a loving, supportive, understanding spouse. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Learning the love language of acts of service will require some of us to reexamine our stereotypes of the roles of husbands… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I remember, in the early days of my marriage, I thought I married the wrong person. We held to our own ideas… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Sometimes when the spouse is really the culprit, it is hard to admit what you consider your little failures, but if you… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
In a difficult marriage, both of us have failed each other. Even though one may be the major problem,you also have failed… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I think the tingles are important. They are real, and I am in favor of their survival. But they are not the… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Make time every day to share with each other some of the events of the day. When you spend more time on… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“The object of love is not getting something you want but doing something for the well-being of the one you love. It… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Good marriages are built upon a combination of emotional love and a common commitment to a core of beliefs about what is… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
The decision to get married will impact one's life more deeply than almost any decision in life. Yet people continue to rush… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse's perspective. We must first learn what is important to our spouse. Only… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
If I walk in the house, and I greet my wife, and I give her a hug, kiss her on the cheek,… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
On the other hand, if I walk in the house, I don't even bother to find her, I just walk in the… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Marriages are always moving from one season to another. Sometimes we find ourselves in winter--discouraged, detached, and dissatisfied; other times we experience springtime, with… — Gary Chapman Copy Share
Something in our nature cries out to be loved by another. Isolation is devastating to the human psyche. That is why solitary confinement is… — Gary Chapman Copy Share
Most of us have more potential than we will ever develop. What holds us back is often a lack of courage. — Gary Chapman Copy Share
On the other hand, if I walk in the house, I don't even bother to find her, I just walk in the den and… — Gary Chapman Copy Share
“I look for three things in hiring people. The first is personal integrity, the second is intelligence, and the third is a high energy… — Gary Chapman Copy Share
Love is always freely given. Love cannot be demanded. We can request things of each other, but we must never demand anything. Requests give… — Gary Chapman Copy Share
“Psychologist William James said that possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated.” — Gary Chapman Copy Share
I think that in today's world, by nature, we are all self-centered. And that often leads to selfishness. — Gary Chapman Copy Share
Sometimes when the spouse is really the culprit, it is hard to admit what you consider your little failures, but if you are going… — Gary Chapman Copy Share
“There is a third truth, which only the mature lover will be able to hear. My spouse’s criticisms about my behavior provide me with… — Gary Chapman Copy Share
The getting out part [of advise] may well be true. Because if you have tried the tender love thing... typically the abuser is not… — Gary Chapman Copy Share
I wrote this book [ Desperate Marriages] because of my own marriage. My wife and I struggled greatly in the early years of marriage.… — Gary Chapman Copy Share
As a senior in high school, I had a strong sense that God wanted me in some kind of ministry. — Gary Chapman Copy Share
We all desperately need love. If a spouse in a difficult marriage will learn the love language of that spouse, and they will, with… — Gary Chapman Copy Share
“If acts of service do not come naturally for you, it is still a love language worth acquiring. It is a way of expressing… — Gary Chapman Copy Share
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