Marriage Quotes by Gary Chapman

“Your words may give your spouse the courage necessary to take that first step.”

— Gary Chapman

In marriage it is never having my own way. It is rather discovering our way.

— Gary Chapman

Conflicts are not a sign you've married the wrong person. They simply affirm you are human.

— Gary Chapman

It was God's idea to make us male and female. And God's the one that instituted marriage.

— Gary Chapman

“Your emotional love language and the language of your spouse may be as different as Chinese from English.”

— Gary Chapman

What we do for each other before marriage is no indication of what we will do after marriage.

— Gary Chapman

The desire for romantic love in marriage is deeply rooted in our psychological makeup.

— Gary Chapman

People need to know their marriage is worth fighting for.

— Gary Chapman

I think one of the other myths is that your environment determines your happiness. That if you are living with an alcoholic…

— Gary Chapman

“Before marriage, we are carried along by the force of the in-love obsession. After marriage, we revert to being the people we…

— Gary Chapman

Typically, we get annoyed when our spouses complain. We get defensive. But, really, when your spouse complains, he or she is giving…

— Gary Chapman

“It also should not be assumed that a marital crisis—the kind where one or both partners feel as if they “can’t take…

— Gary Chapman

If you want to improve a relationship, it's not that you demand your spouse to change. You have to ask, 'Where did…

— Gary Chapman

“Often we fail to consider the fact that our social, spiritual, and intellectual interests are miles apart. Our value systems and goals…

— Gary Chapman

I have been doing marriage counseling for about 15 years and I realized that what makes one person feel loved, doesn't make…

— Gary Chapman

People do not get married planning to divorce. Divorce is the result of a lack of preparation for marriage and the failure…

— Gary Chapman

Very few alcoholics get into a treatment program until they are at the end of the rope, often when they feel like…

— Gary Chapman

“He was a sincere husband who failed to understand the tremendous power of presence. His being there for his wife was more…

— Gary Chapman

“The social institution of marriage is first and foremost a covenant relationship in which a man and a woman pledge themselves to…

— Gary Chapman

“If I choose justice and seek to pay my spouse back or make her pay for her wrongdoing, I am making myself…

— Gary Chapman

Emotions are our spontaneous response to life. We have these emotions, but if the emotion is a negative emotion, then I have…

— Gary Chapman

I hope the reader's sense that I am deeply empathetic with the pain of being in a desperate marriage, but I also…

— Gary Chapman

This book [Desperate Marriages ] is really a book on how to be a positive change agent in a very, very difficult…

— Gary Chapman

“Third, one who is "in love" is not genuinely interested in fostering the personal growth of the other person. "If we have…

— Gary Chapman

Once you identify and learn to speak your spouse’s primary love language, I believe that you will have discovered the key to…

— Gary Chapman

“Love doesn’t keep a score of wrongs. Love doesn’t bring up past failures. None of us is perfect. In marriage we do…

— Gary Chapman

“I would be delighted to wash dishes tonight,” said in a snarling tone will not be received as an expression of love.…

— Gary Chapman

“Being in love is an emotional and obsessive experience. However, emotions change and obsessions fade. Research indicates that the average life span…

— Gary Chapman

“What would be workable for you?” is a good place to begin. Now we are focusing on resolution rather than differences. Two…

— Gary Chapman

“Andre didn’t make that connection at first. He worked hard—at the wrong tasks. And he failed to make a dent in his…

— Gary Chapman

Marriages are always moving from one season to another. Sometimes we find ourselves in winter--discouraged, detached, and dissatisfied; other times we experience…

— Gary Chapman

“Genuine forgiveness and reconciliation are two-person transactions that are enabled by apologies. Some, particularly within the Christian worldview, have taught forgiveness without…

— Gary Chapman

“Love doesn't keep a score of wrongs. Love doesn't bring up past failures. None of us is perfect. In marriage we do…

— Gary Chapman

“We must first learn what is important to our spouse.”

— Gary Chapman

Our spouse will usually interpret our message based on our tone of voice, not the words we use.

— Gary Chapman

Many couples have never learned the tremendous power of verbally affirming each other.

— Gary Chapman

Most people spend far more time in preparation for their vocation than they do in preparation for marriage.

— Gary Chapman

“Love makes requests, not demands. When I demand things from my spouse, I become a parent and she the child.”

— Gary Chapman

Over the long haul, many of those people [in a difficult marriage] will begin to reciprocate, because you are meeting a basic…

— Gary Chapman

Every single day in a marriage, we influence each other. It is a matter of am I going to have a positive…

— Gary Chapman