Friendship Quote by Tom Rachman
““I have to wonder if you're not being slightly naive here. I mean, are you saying that you want nothing for people? You have no motives? Everybody has motives. Name the person, the circumstances, I'll name the motive. Even saints have motives -- to feel like saints, probably. ... But still, the point of any relationship is obtaining something from another person.””
About This Quote
Source Novel: The Marriage Plot by Jeffrey Eugenides, 2011
Relationships are driven by underlying motives, even when people claim selflessness; seeking benefit is inherent.
In simple terms: People always have hidden reasons for connecting.
Key Takeaway
Recognize and discuss motives openly.
Themes
relationships
motivation
human nature
Mood
reflective
analytical
Type
philosophical
inspirational
When to use this quote
- friendships
- romantic partnerships
- business collaborations
Key Concepts
psychology
self‑interest
ethical reflection
Questions to Reflect On
- What hidden motives influence your closest relationships?
- How can you balance self‑interest with genuine care?
A Different Perspective
Motives may be subconscious, making honest dialogue difficult.
