Complex-ptsd Quote by Stephen W. Porges
““Playing nice" comes naturally when our neuroception detects safety and promotes physiological states that support social behavior. However, pro-social behavior will not occur when our neuroception misreads the environmental cues and triggers physiological states that support defensive strategies. After all, "playing nice" is not appropriate or adaptive behavior in dangerous or life-threatening situations. In these situations, humans - like other mammals - react with more primitive neurobiological defense systems. To create relationships, humans must subdue these defensive reactions to engage, attach, and form lasting social bonds. Humans have adaptive neurobehavioral systems for both pro-social and defensive behaviors.””
About This Quote
Source Book: The Polyvagal Theory, 2011
Safety triggers cooperative behavior, while perceived threat activates defensive responses; social bonds require overriding defensive instincts.
In simple terms: Feeling safe lets us be social; danger makes us defensive.
Key Takeaway
Cultivate safety to foster connection.
Themes
social behavior
neuroception
defense
attachment
Mood
empathetic
calm
Type
educational
inspirational
When to use this quote
- team building
- conflict resolution
- therapy sessions
Key Concepts
polyvagal theory
physiological regulation
Questions to Reflect On
- How can environments be made safer?
- What practices help shift from defense to connection?
A Different Perspective
Social cannot always suppress innate defensive reactions.
