Bad intentions Quote by Suzette Boon
““Changes in Relationship with others: It is especially hard to trust other people if you have been repeatedly abused, abandoned or betrayed as a child. Mistrust makes it very difficult to make friends, and to be able to distinguish between good and bad intentions in other people. Some parts do not seem to trust anyone, while other parts may be so vulnerable and needy that they do not pay attention to clues that perhaps a person is not trustworthy. Some parts like to be close to others or feel a desperate need to be close and taken care of, while other parts fear being close or actively dislike people. Some parts are afraid of being in relationships while others are afraid of being rejected or criticized. This naturally sets up major internal as well as relational conflicts.””
About This Quote
Source Article: The Psychology of Attachment, 2021
Early trauma creates conflicting inner parts that both seek and fear closeness, leading to mistrust and relational tension.
In simple terms: Child abuse causes mixed feelings about trust and intimacy.
Key Takeaway
Recognize and integrate conflicting parts for healthier relationships.
Themes
trust
attachment
trauma
conflict
relationships
Mood
reflective
hopeful
Type
advice
psychological
inspirational
When to use this quote
- therapy sessions
- support groups
- personal reflection
- relationship counseling
Key Concepts
psychology
inner child
boundary setting
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you notice your inner parts reacting in relationships?
- What steps can you take to nurture trust safely?
A Different Perspective
Healing requires confronting painful memories, which can be overwhelming.
