Adversity Quote by Shannon L. Alder
““If you want to know if someone was meant to be in your future, then remove all the worldly things about them from your mind. Don’t think about their looks, the intimate moments or their personality. Now, think about how they made you feel, how they improved your life and what virtues they possess that push you to want to become better. Did they bring you closer to God? Did they bring you to your life mission? Did they ever lie to you, betray you or made it impossible for you to feel comfortable speaking your mind? When you remove all the shine from a diamond, it becomes a glass rock. What value is it then? See beneath the surface and you will know who your future is with.””
About This Quote
Source Blog post: Personal Development, 2019
Assess relationships by focusing on emotional impact, growth, and alignment with purpose, not superficial traits.
In simple terms: Look beyond surface to judge a partner’s true value.
Key Takeaway
Prioritize deeper qualities over appearances.
Themes
relationships
values
spiritual alignment
Mood
thoughtful
introspective
Type
philosophical
guiding
When to use this quote
- dating
- friendship
- mentor selection
- spiritual practice
Key Concepts
emotional intelligence
life mission
ethical behavior
Questions to Reflect On
- Do you feel truly uplifted by this person?
- How does this relationship support your life goals?
A Different Perspective
People may misinterpret “feelings” as the only metric, overlooking practical compatibility.
