Addiction Quote by Patrick J. Carnes
““Addicts can clearly know they need to stop and cannot. Despite the consequences they continue high-risk behavior. They become so obsessed with the behavior that all their life priorities—children, work, values, family, hobbies, friends—are sacrificed for the behavior and the preoccupation that goes with it. The addiction becomes a way to escape or obliterate pain. The addict needs the behavior in order to feel normal. Now reread the previous paragraph and substitute the word relationship for the word behavior.””
About This Quote
Source Book: Out of the Shadows by Patrick J. Carnes, 1991
Addiction hijacks priorities, turning life into a painful escape that feels necessary for normalcy.
In simple terms: Addiction makes people sacrifice everything to feel okay.
Key Takeaway
Recognize the illusion of normalcy and seek healthier coping.
Themes
addiction
priorities
escape
normalcy
sacrifice
Mood
despair
hopeful
reflective
Type
diagnostic
therapeutic
When to use this quote
- relationship counseling
- rehabilitation programs
- support groups
- personal reflection
Key Concepts
psychology
behavioral dependence
self‑medication
Questions to Reflect On
- What needs does the 'relationship' fulfill?
- How can one rebuild priorities healthily?
A Different Perspective
Addiction may also stem from underlying trauma, not just choice.
