Intimacy Quote by Patrick J. Carnes
““In part this is an intimacy disorder, for as soon as she starts to recommit to the relationship, he starts distancing himself. The intensity begins to build again. He feels trapped or jealous or possessive or something else that distances him from her. Imagine that a relationship is a circle. For true intimacy to take place, both must stay in the circle at the same time.””
About This Quote
Source Book: Out of the Shadows by Patrick J. Carnes, 1991
Intimacy can trigger fear of loss, causing one partner to withdraw as the other seeks closeness, creating a cyclical tension.
In simple terms: Intimacy can cause distance due to fear.
Key Takeaway
Recognize and address fear in relationships.
Themes
intimacy
fear
relationship dynamics
Mood
empathetic
analytical
Type
therapeutic
insightful
When to use this quote
- couples therapy
- relationship counseling
- personal boundaries
Key Concepts
attachment theory
psychology
Questions to Reflect On
- What fears arise when intimacy deepens?
- How can both partners stay present together?
A Different Perspective
Fear may be rooted in deeper trauma, not just current behavior.
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