May Quote by Mary Chase
“Years ago my mother used to say to me, she'd say, "In this world, Elwood, you must be" - she always called me Elwood - "In this world, Elwood, you must be oh so smart or oh so pleasant." Well, for years I was smart. I recommend pleasant. You may quote me.”
About This Quote
Intelligence and pleasantness are both valued, but kindness often yields lasting connections.
In simple terms: Be smart and pleasant, but prioritize kindness.
Key Takeaway
Cultivate kindness alongside intellect.
Themes
intelligence
pleasantness
kindness
social dynamics
self‑growth
Mood
warm
thoughtful
Type
advice
philosophical
When to use this quote
- friendship building
- career networking
- personal development
- teaching
Key Concepts
psychology
ethics
literature
Questions to Reflect On
- How does kindness affect your relationships?
- When have you chosen kindness over cleverness?
A Different Perspective
Focusing only on intellect can isolate you.
![“The system [of thought] doesn't stay with the difficult problem that produces unpleasant feelings. It's conditioned somehow to move as fast as it can toward more pleasant feelings, without actually facing the thing that's making the unpleasant feeling.” quote by David Bohm](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/img-quotes/e2a/david-bohm-4805_difficult_the-system-of-thought-doesn-t-stay-with_8291.jpg)
