Antidote Quote by Jeremy Holmes

“To feel attached is to feel safe and secure. By contrast, an insecurely attached person may have a mixture of feelings towards their attachment…

— Jeremy Holmes

“Try to prise a limpet away from its rock and it will cling all the harder.”

— Jeremy Holmes

“A securely attached child will store an internal working model of a responsive, loving, reliable care-giver, and of a self that is worthy of…

— Jeremy Holmes

“The unconscious operation of the attachment system via internal working models probably plays an important part in the choice of marital partner and relationship…

— Jeremy Holmes

“So it is with grief where, if all goes well, can come a strengthening of the inner world, of memory and definition.”

— Jeremy Holmes

“Bowlby's conviction that attachment needs continue throughout life and are not outgrown has important implications for psychotherapy. It means that the therapist inevitably becomes…

— Jeremy Holmes

“In Separation (1973a), Bowlby puts forward a theory of agoraphobia based on the notion of anxious attachment. He sees agoraphobia, like school phobia, as…

— Jeremy Holmes

“A person's attachment status is a fundamental determinant of their relationships, and this is reflected in the way they feel about themselves and others.…

— Jeremy Holmes

“The patient brings with him into therapy all the failures and suspicions and losses he has experienced through his life. The defensive forms of…

— Jeremy Holmes

“Attachment exerted an invisible but powerful pull on the child, just as heavenly bodies are connected by gravitational forces. But unlike gravity, attachment makes…

— Jeremy Holmes

“The ambivalent strategy involves clinging to the care-giver, often with excessive submissiveness, or adopting a role-reversal in which the care-giver is cared for rather…

— Jeremy Holmes

“Bowlby uses the notion of faulty internal working models to describe different patterns of neurotic attachment. He sees the basic problem of 'anxious attachment"…

— Jeremy Holmes