“The patient brings with him into therapy all the failures and suspicions and losses he has experienced through his life. The defensive forms of insecure attachment - avoidance, ambivalence, disorganisation - will be brought into play in relation to the… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“To feel attached is to feel safe and secure. By contrast, an insecurely attached person may have a mixture of feelings towards their attachment… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“Try to prise a limpet away from its rock and it will cling all the harder.” — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“A securely attached child will store an internal working model of a responsive, loving, reliable care-giver, and of a self that is worthy of… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“The unconscious operation of the attachment system via internal working models probably plays an important part in the choice of marital partner and relationship… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“So it is with grief where, if all goes well, can come a strengthening of the inner world, of memory and definition.” — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“Bowlby's conviction that attachment needs continue throughout life and are not outgrown has important implications for psychotherapy. It means that the therapist inevitably becomes… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“In Separation (1973a), Bowlby puts forward a theory of agoraphobia based on the notion of anxious attachment. He sees agoraphobia, like school phobia, as… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“John Donne's 'A Valediction: forbidding mourning' concerns a sea voyage, and uses the image of a circle as an antidote to the abyss of… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“A person's attachment status is a fundamental determinant of their relationships, and this is reflected in the way they feel about themselves and others.… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“The patient brings with him into therapy all the failures and suspicions and losses he has experienced through his life. The defensive forms of… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“Attachment exerted an invisible but powerful pull on the child, just as heavenly bodies are connected by gravitational forces. But unlike gravity, attachment makes… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“The ambivalent strategy involves clinging to the care-giver, often with excessive submissiveness, or adopting a role-reversal in which the care-giver is cared for rather… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
