Communication Quote by Jeffery Moussaieff Masson
““It is rarely possible, when a human being is in deep need, to look upon somebody who offers help as merely another flawed human being with whom one is going to engage in a protracted conversation. A kind of wild idealization sets in, and we imagine the person in whom we confide to possess ineffable and valuable traits beyond those attainable by ordinary mortals. We ascribe value, and project qualities onto this person that almost never correspond with reality. It is a little bit like falling in love - powerful emotions are called forth. It takes a strong person not to exploit the ensuing power imbalance.””
About This Quote
Source Book: The Roots of Evil: The Origins of Genocide and Other Massacres, 1998
When people are desperate, they idealize helpers, seeing them as flawless, which creates a power imbalance that can be abused.
In simple terms: Desperation leads to idealizing helpers, creating power imbalance.
Key Takeaway
Beware idealization and protect vulnerable people.
Themes
vulnerability
idealization
power dynamics
ethics
relationships
Mood
cautious
reflective
Type
advisory
ethical
When to use this quote
- counseling
- emergency aid
- friendship
- mentorship
- leadership
Key Concepts
psychology
social projection
dependency
authority
exploitation
Questions to Reflect On
- How can we maintain realistic expectations of helpers?
- What safeguards protect against power abuse?
A Different Perspective
Idealization can blind judgment and enable manipulation.
