Avoiding pain Quote by Henry Cloud

““Defensive devaluation is a protective device that makes love bad, trust unimportant and people "no darn good any way". People who have been deeply hurt in their relationships will often devalue love so it doesn't hurt so much. And they often become resigned to never loving again.””

Henry Cloud

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“Neglecting them leads to spiritual and emotional problems; having them met, however, frees us to meet the needs of others cheerfully and without resentment.…

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Faith goes beyond reason. It goes beyond what you can see. But it is as real as anything you can touch or feel.

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Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.

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