Avoiding pain Quote by Henry Cloud
““Defensive devaluation is a protective device that makes love bad, trust unimportant and people "no darn good any way". People who have been deeply hurt in their relationships will often devalue love so it doesn't hurt so much. And they often become resigned to never loving again.””
About This Quote
People protect themselves from further pain by devaluing love and trust after being deeply hurt.
In simple terms: People devalue love to avoid hurt.
Key Takeaway
Recognize and heal past wounds.
Themes
relationship
psychology
self‑protection
Mood
sad
reflective
Type
advice
psychological
When to use this quote
- therapy
- dating
- personal growth
- friendships
Key Concepts
attachment theory
emotional avoidance
Questions to Reflect On
- What wounds are you still protecting against?
- How can you safely re‑open to love?
A Different Perspective
Devaluing love can also prevent positive connections.
