Henry Cloud

“All-or-nothing thinking keeps people stuck in destructive ruts.”

— Henry Cloud

Love can only exist where freedom and responsibility are operating.

— Henry Cloud

“a runner can never see the finish line in the middle of a marathon,”

— Henry Cloud

The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.

— Henry Cloud

Be Hard on the issue, Soft on the person.

— Henry Cloud

One of the worst things you can die with is potential.

— Henry Cloud

“Grace must come from the outside of ourselves to be useful and healing.”

— Henry Cloud

Diligence is not easy, but we can't reach our goals without it.

— Henry Cloud

Confronting an irresponsible person is not painful to him; only consequences are.

— Henry Cloud

Some goals are not going to fulfill you. Choose goals that you value and care about.

— Henry Cloud

To get greater than 100% return on a growth step, give up defensiveness. Defensiveness stifles performance, and destroys relationships.

— Henry Cloud

Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.

— Henry Cloud

As a psychologist, I can tell you that there are people who look very good in a group, but they're very different…

— Henry Cloud

There's no better way to become a disintegrated character than to be your own authority.

— Henry Cloud

“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven” (Eccl. 3:1).”

— Henry Cloud

Spouses in healthy relationships cherish each other's space and are champions of each other's causes.

— Henry Cloud

The physicality of a real relationship - one that encompasses mind, body and soul - ultimately makes it more fulfilling and powerful…

— Henry Cloud

Leadership is not taken, it is given. People give leadership to those that they trust. They allow people that they trust to…

— Henry Cloud

Because dating is a human exercise, it can be a tightrope fraught with danger. You will be dating imperfect people, and some…

— Henry Cloud

“One of the most important types of decision making is deciding what you are not going to do, what you need to…

— Henry Cloud

Dont use all-or-nothing thinking. Take each day as its own day, and dont worry about it if you mess up one day.…

— Henry Cloud

“Repentant people will recognize a wrong and really want to change because they do not want to be that kind of person.…

— Henry Cloud

“Do not rescue an angry man, lest you have to do it again tomorrow” (Proverbs 19:19, my paraphrase). In other words, if…

— Henry Cloud

“Don’t let life pass you by as you shrink back. Don’t let passivity create a mummylike, survival-type existence for you. Find people…

— Henry Cloud

Oftentimes, churches are started by an entrepreneurial church plant visionary whom everybody follows, but he's not following anybody. Even though he's "accountable…

— Henry Cloud

“We can't manipulate people into swallowing our boundaries by sugarcoating them. Boundaries are a "litmus test" for the quality of our relationships.…

— Henry Cloud

“Many people are too quick to trust someone in the name of forgiveness and not make sure that the other is producing…

— Henry Cloud

“Our life is our own now, and we alone are accountable for its outcome: “For we must all appear before the judgment…

— Henry Cloud

“In the language of Ecclesiastes, are there situations in business or in life where you are trying to birth things that should…

— Henry Cloud

“Feelings are also a warning signal telling us that we need to do something. For example, if you are angry at someone…

— Henry Cloud

“If every marriage placed value on holiness, the following would be present: Confession and ownership of the problems in each individual A…

— Henry Cloud

“This principle is taught in Scripture: "We love because he first loved us" (1 John 4:19). In other words, we learn to…

— Henry Cloud

“The truth was that they did not really have a mature connection at all. They had a rescuing connection. When she was…

— Henry Cloud

“Good-bad problems are major destroyers. People who can’t reconcile either their own or anyone else’s faults suffer tremendous isolation because they are…

— Henry Cloud

“(re: Grace and Truth + Time = Growth) "Grace is the first ingredient necessary for growing up in the image of God.…

— Henry Cloud

“If your boundaries have been injured, you may find that when you are in conflict with someone, you shut down without even…

— Henry Cloud

“Christian psychologist is called in; if it’s a spiritual problem, the pastor gets the call. We assume that our depression, panic, guilt,…

— Henry Cloud

“Time is an important ingredient for growth, but sometimes we pass through time and get better; at other times we pass through…

— Henry Cloud

“Sometimes we transgress because we like to rebel. For example, a teenager may drink because he likes to break the rules. Sometimes…

— Henry Cloud

“Proactive people show you what they love, what they want, what they purpose, and what they stand for. These people are very…

— Henry Cloud