““ Change Your Inaccurate Expectations Many social fears are caused by inaccurate expectations and “catastrophizing.” One way to determine your expectations is to figure out exactly what you fear. For instance, if you are going to a friend’s birthday party and you feel overly anxious, ask yourself “Why am I afraid?” “Because I am going to a party” isn’t a good answer, because the party itself does not lead to anxiety. You need to determine what you expect will happen at the party to determine what is making you nervous. You might find that you believe no one will talk to you or that your friend will hate your gift. Once you identify concrete fears and expectations, you can work to change your maladaptive thinking patterns.””
