Capacity Quote by Harriet Lerner

“Pretending can be a bold form of experimentation and inventiveness. In pretending joy or happiness, we may discover or enhance our capacity for it.” quote by Harriet Lerner — Download Open image

“Pretending can be a bold form of experimentation and inventiveness. In pretending joy or happiness, we may discover or enhance our capacity for it.”

Harriet Lerner

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Kids want nothing more than for all the important adults in their life to get along.

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“People's sense of self worth is pivotal to their ability to look clearly at the hurt they've caused. The more solid one's sense of self regard, the more likely that that person can feel empathy and compassion for the hurt party, and apologize from an authentic center.”

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