Ifs Quote by Harriet Lerner

“Letting go of anger and hate requires us to give up the hope for a different past, along with the hope of a fantasized…

— Harriet Lerner

“There’s a widespread belief that if you have solid self-esteem you don’t need outside affirmation and praise. This is patently untrue, by the way.”

— Harriet Lerner

It is an act of courage to acknowledge our own uncertainty and sit with it for a while.

— Harriet Lerner

Silence can pose a greater threat than the difficult truth.

— Harriet Lerner

Nothing you say can ensure that the other person will get it, or respond the way you want. You may never exceed his threshold…

— Harriet Lerner

If you exchanged wedding vows, tape them to your bathroom mirror and read them aloud to yourself every morning along with the ritual brushing…

— Harriet Lerner

Kids want nothing more than for all the important adults in their life to get along.

— Harriet Lerner

“People's sense of self worth is pivotal to their ability to look clearly at the hurt they've caused. The more solid one's sense of…

— Harriet Lerner

Being able to make a sincere apology - one that says, "Yes, I get it; I screwed up. Your feelings make sense, and I'm…

— Harriet Lerner

“Everyone freaks out. Sometimes the best we can do with fear is befriend it. Expect it and understand that fear will always reappear. Eventually…

— Harriet Lerner

The bolder and more courageous you are, the more you will learn about yourself.

— Harriet Lerner

Underground issues from one relationship or context invariably fuel our fires in another.

— Harriet Lerner