Apologize Quote by Harriet Lerner
“If you're married to an entrenched non-apologizer, it won't help to doggedly demand one. Some folks lack the self-esteem required to take responsibility for their less than honorable behaviors, feel remorse, and offer a heartfelt apology. And many people are so hard on themselves for the mistakes they make, they don't have the emotional room to admit vulnerability and apologize to a partner.”
About This Quote
Source Book: The Dance of Anger, 1985
Apologizing requires humility and self‑esteem; demanding it from a stubborn partner often fails.
In simple terms: Apologies need self‑respect and vulnerability.
Key Takeaway
Cultivate humility before seeking apologies.
Themes
relationships
communication
self‑esteem
apology
Mood
empathetic
reflective
Type
self‑help
psychology
When to use this quote
- marriage counseling
- conflict resolution
- personal therapy
- self‑growth
Key Concepts
emotional intelligence
responsibility
vulnerability
Questions to Reflect On
- Are you willing to model the apology you seek?
- What personal barriers prevent you from apologizing?
A Different Perspective
Some may never change despite effort.
