Balanced Quote by Harriet Lerner

“An intimate relationship is one in which neither party silences, sacrifices, or betrays the self and each party expresses strength and vulnerability, weakness and competence in a balanced way.”

Harriet Lerner

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Balanced Betray Competence Intimate Intimate Relationship Intimate relationships Party Relationships Sacrifice Self Silence Vulnerability Way Weakness

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