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Growing older Quote by Elizabeth Strout

“What young people didn’t know, she thought, lying down beside this man, his hand on her shoulder, her arm; oh, what young people did not know. They did not know that lumpy, aged, and wrinkled bodies were as needy as their own young, firm ones, that love was not to be tossed away carelessly, as if…” quote by Elizabeth Strout
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““What young people didn’t know, she thought, lying down beside this man, his hand on her shoulder, her arm; oh, what young people did not know. They did not know that lumpy, aged, and wrinkled bodies were as needy as their own young, firm ones, that love was not to be tossed away carelessly, as if it were a tart on a platter with others that got passed around again. No, if love was available, one chose it, or didn’t choose it. And if her platter had been full with the goodness of Henry and she had found it burdensome, had flicked it off crumbs at a time, it was because she had not known what one should know: that day after day was unconsciously squandered. And so, if this man next to her now was not a man she would have chosen before this time, what did it matter: He most likely wouldn’t have chosen her either. But here they were, and Olive pictured two slices of Swiss cheese pressed together, such holes they brought to this union—what pieces life took out of you. Her eyes were closed, and throughout her tired self swept waves of gratitude—and regret. She pictured the sunny room, the sun-washed wall, the bayberry outside. It baffled her, the world. She did not want to leave it yet.””

Elizabeth Strout

About This Quote

Source Novel: “Olive Kitteridge” (short story), 2008

The passage reflects on aging, love, and missed opportunities, using vivid metaphors to explore regret and the fleeting nature of life’s choices.

In simple terms: Aging and love bring regret and missed chances.

Key Takeaway

Cherish moments before they slip away.

Themes

aging love regret choice

Mood

melancholic contemplative

Type

literary philosophical

When to use this quote

  • relationships
  • elderly care
  • personal reflection
  • life planning

Key Concepts

existentialism human connection

Questions to Reflect On

  • How can we balance longing for the past with present happiness?
  • What choices define our sense of fulfillment?
A Different Perspective

Regret may dominate if we ignore present joys.

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