About Quote by David D. Burns
“One of the most interesting things about the cognitive theory is the idea that anger and interpersonal conflict ultimately result from a mental con. In other words, you're telling yourself things that aren't entirely true when you're fighting with someone.”
About This Quote
Source Book: Feeling Good, 1980
He explains that anger and conflict arise from distorted self‑talk during disputes, not just external events.
In simple terms: Anger often stems from false beliefs we tell ourselves.
Key Takeaway
Challenge and replace harmful thoughts during conflict.
Themes
cognition
emotion
conflict
Mood
analytical
introspective
Type
psychological
educational
When to use this quote
- marriage counseling
- workplace disagreements
- parent‑child arguments
Key Concepts
cognitive distortion
self‑talk
Questions to Reflect On
- What beliefs fuel your anger?
- How can you test their truth?
A Different Perspective
Changing thoughts alone may not resolve deep‑seated issues.
