When two people respect each other, the ability to be vulnerable and to reveal hurt feelings can create a powerful emotional connection… — David D. Burns Copy Share Image
Apologies do make a difference. Believe it or not, research shows people often prefer them over money. — David D. Burns Copy Share Image
People who are prone to guilt tend to work harder and perform better than people who are not guilt-prone, and are perceived… — David D. Burns Copy Share Image
Assert your right to make a few mistakes. If people can't accept your imperfections, that's their fault. — David D. Burns Copy Share Image
Most people do surprisingly poorly when dealing with a relative who is hurting, depressed, or anxious - we get defensive and try… — David D. Burns Copy Share Image
Surprisingly, it's forgiveness, not guilt, that increases accountability. Researchers have found that taking a self-compassionate point of view on a personal failure… — David D. Burns Copy Share Image
The biggest mistake you can make in trying to talk convincingly is to put your highest priority on expressing your ideas and… — David D. Burns Copy Share Image
Cognitive therapy is based on the idea that when you change the way you think, you can change the way you feel… — David D. Burns Copy Share Image
People who expect to feel guilty tend to be more sympathetic, to put themselves into other people's shoes, to think about the… — David D. Burns Copy Share Image
I always wanted to see people's lives transformed from depression and anxiety to joy and peace. — David D. Burns Copy Share Image
I have been amazed by the interest in cognitive behavioral therapy that has developed since 'Feeling Good' was first published in 1980.… — David D. Burns Copy Share Image
I'm all for 'tools,' not 'schools,' of therapy. To me, the schools of therapy compete much like religions, or even cults, all… — David D. Burns Copy Share Image
People who are prone to anxiety are nearly always people-pleasers who fear conflict and negative feelings like anger. When you feel upset,… — David D. Burns Copy Share Image
What is the point of abusing yourself with guilt in the first place? If you did make a mistake and act in… — David D. Burns Copy Share Image
A poor self-image is the magnifying glass that can transform a trivial mistake or an imperfection into an overwhelming symbol of personal defeat. — David D. Burns Copy Share Image
Most people do surprisingly poorly when dealing with a relative who is hurting, depressed, or anxious - we get defensive and try to solve… — David D. Burns Copy Share Image
The first principle of cognitive therapy is that all your moods are created by your 'cognitions,' or thoughts. A cognition refers to the way… — David D. Burns Copy Share Image
“In one sense, depression can feel even worse than cancer, because most cancer patients feel hope as well as self-esteem.” — David D. Burns Copy Share Image
More often than not, the belief that you are bad contributes to the "bad" behavior. Change and learning occur most readily when you (a)… — David D. Burns Copy Share Image
I had the fear of heights when I was young, along with many other fears and phobias, including the fear of dogs, bees, horses,… — David D. Burns Copy Share Image
“The attitude that depression is necessary strikes me as destructive, inhuman, and victimizing.” — David D. Burns Copy Share Image
“know about the brain's hardware and software. How does the firing of a nerve or a series of nerves get translated into a thought… — David D. Burns Copy Share Image
“There was nothing dreadfully wrong with me, I was just upsetting myself with my irrational thinking. I just couldn't admit it until I knew… — David D. Burns Copy Share Image
“Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things… — David D. Burns Copy Share Image
“And most important, nobody could love or relate to you. It would be impossible to feel any love for someone who was flawless and… — David D. Burns Copy Share Image
