Marriage Quote by Brenda Rickman Vantrease
““I know my husband. He died with God's name on his lips if anybody's. He always loved his work more than me." (Kate) "Then he was a fool," the captain said with such bitterness that she felt sorry for him, too. "No. He was not a fool," she said. "And he loved me. I know he did. He just belonged to God. I only borrowed him for a time." (p.383)””
About This Quote
Source Novel: The Book of Lost Names by Kristin Harmel, 2020
A woman reflects on her husband's devotion to faith and work, grappling with love, loss, and the sense that his life was ultimately owned by a higher power.
In simple terms: She sees his devotion as both love and a surrender to God.
Key Takeaway
Accept love while recognizing its limits.
Themes
faith
love
loss
marriage
identity
Mood
melancholic
reflective
Type
literary
philosophical
When to use this quote
- grieving a spouse
- discussing faith in marriage
- support groups
- therapy sessions
Key Concepts
devotion
sacrifice
spiritual conflict
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you balance love for a partner with respect for their spiritual commitments?
- Can devotion to work or faith coexist with intimate relationships?
A Different Perspective
The perspective may overlook personal agency and the husband's own desires.
![“He was alone and shackled by his neck to the wall. And he had no hope. How did a man live without hope? [You hope is in Jesus Christ. Pray to your Father in that name and he will ease your pain or shorten it]. That's what Tyndale had said in his last letter. And that's what John tried to do…” quote by Brenda Rickman Vantrease](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/img-quotes/140/brenda-rickman-vantrease-35025_hope_he-was-alone-and-shackled-by-his-neck-to_3102156.jpg)
![“I don't like being away from home. That's one reason why I don't work as much as I used to [when I started my career], because so many things are on the road. I just don't want to be away from my husband, my dogs and my home. I don't sing that much any more because that also takes you on the road.” quote by Jane Powell](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/img-quotes/07c/jane-powell-36243_away-from-home_i-don-t-like-being-away-from-home-that-s_278.jpg)
