Robert Kegan

Successfully functioning in a society with diverse values, traditions and lifestyles requires us to have a relationship to our own reactions rather…

— Robert Kegan

“The struggle of the sexes to know each other, to see each other, and to communicate deeply - a struggle which may…

— Robert Kegan

“Although I have suggested that American culture tends to favor the side of independence over the side of inclusion (and I would…

— Robert Kegan

It is not change that causes anxiety; it is the feeling that we are without defenses in the presence of what we…

— Robert Kegan

“But what can be found can also be lost. The process of differentiation, creating the possibility of integration, brings into being the…

— Robert Kegan

“If you want to understand another person in some fundamental way you must know where the person is in his or her…

— Robert Kegan

“While the emergence from embeddedness in the interpersonal frees one from the subjectivity of constructing one's morality on the bases of arbitrary…

— Robert Kegan

“Depression characterized by the 'threat-to' orientation lodges itself in one side of the proposition. Doing so does not eliminate doubt, it only…

— Robert Kegan

“It is easy for us to delude ourselves into thinking that our notions of the healthy person are unbiased by our particular…

— Robert Kegan

“Instead of regarding them as things that just need to go away, we look at the behaviors as a precious resource, valuable…

— Robert Kegan

“All growth is costly. It involves the leaving behind of an old way of being in the world. Often it involves, at…

— Robert Kegan

“A writer has to strain to make the reader recover the process in the words 'human being'; we talk about 'a being'…

— Robert Kegan

“Emergence from embeddedness involves a kind of repudiation, an evolutionary re-cognition that what before was me is not-me. This we see, too,…

— Robert Kegan

Learning is the making of meaning.

— Robert Kegan

“How do we help people (whether individuals or groups) to make their third column commitments visible? We begin by surfacing the biggest…

— Robert Kegan

“Kohlberg's stage 4 is essentially the psychological birth of ideology, which is a meaning system that is above all factional - that…

— Robert Kegan

Change does not fail to occur because of insincerity. The heart patient is not insincere about his wish to keep living, even…

— Robert Kegan

“All transitions involve leaving a consolidated self behind before any new self can take its place. At the 4-5 shift this means…

— Robert Kegan

“Central to Piaget's framework - and often ignored even by those who count themselves as Piagetian - is this activity, equilibration. Whether…

— Robert Kegan

“Piaget may 'be about' stages or cognitive development only in the way that Newton 'is about' gravity, or Columbus the West Indies,…

— Robert Kegan

That 'change makes us uncomfortable' is now one of the most widely promoted, widely accepted, and under-considered half-truths around. [I]t is not…

— Robert Kegan

Motion is the context of living. We find meaning my and in our doing.

— Robert Kegan

“What is self and what is other may be a question of the person's 'biology,' but it is equally a question of…

— Robert Kegan

What we mean by maturity in people's thinking is not a matter of how smart they are, but it is a matter…

— Robert Kegan

When we see that we are not made up by the other's experience, we then have the capacity not to take responsibility…

— Robert Kegan