““Emergence from embeddedness involves a kind of repudiation, an evolutionary re-cognition that what before was me is not-me. This we see, too, on a universal basis in the first years of life. Could the 'terrible twos' with their rampant negativism and declarations of 'No!' be a communication to the old self, now gradually becoming object, more than to those exasperated parents who feel they are being defied as distinct and separate people? When the new balance becomes more secure, the infant will have less of a need to 'protest too much' and the parents will become 'others' rather than 'not-me's.””
