“When we invest ourselves in worrying about other people think, we lose touch with what we stand for. By seeking others' approval… — Rachel Simmons Trying to be perfect Copy Share Image
Intrinsic motivation is one of learning's most precious resources. It bolsters us to stick out the tough moments of a challenge and… — Rachel Simmons Education Copy Share Image
In our million-mile-an-hour culture of never enough, working less is interpreted as working less well. This isn't always the case. — Rachel Simmons Always Copy Share Image
My experience is that aggression is a universal trait in human beings - girls feel it in any sort of environment, same-sex… — Rachel Simmons Aggression Copy Share Image
Teasing is often healthy and fun, not to mention an important part of interpersonal and individual development. But when it's abused, 'just… — Rachel Simmons Comedy Copy Share Image
I run skills-building programs focused on healthy risk taking, failure resilience, and self-care for undergraduates around the country. — Rachel Simmons Around Copy Share Image
Girlhood is often marred by schoolgirl cruelty, a grim rite of passage in which parents sometimes cruelly collude. Mothers and fathers must… — Rachel Simmons Cruelty Copy Share Image
Prom culture is now painstakingly documented on sites such as Instagram and Facebook, exacerbating the angst of the uninvited. — Rachel Simmons Angst Copy Share Image
All around me, I see girls forced to become rat racers in the College Application Industrial Complex, the subculture where students must… — Rachel Simmons Education Copy Share Image
“Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some people stay for a while, and give us a deeper understanding of… — Rachel Simmons Learning Copy Share Image
What teens share online is dwarfed by what they consume. Pre-Internet, you had to hoof it to the grocery store to find… — Rachel Simmons Celebrity Copy Share Image
Secrecy is hardly new on Planet Girl: as many an eye-rolling boy will tell you, girls excel at eluding the prying questions… — Rachel Simmons Age Copy Share Image
Social media forces girls to bear witness to painful realities of relationship that were previously hidden from view. It is a new… — Rachel Simmons Girl Copy Share Image
You might be thinking that some people are just naturally good at speaking up, and others just aren't - game over. Not… — Rachel Simmons Game Copy Share Image
Many girls aspire to a version of selfhood that puts a psychological glass ceiling on their potential to succeed. They suffer from… — Rachel Simmons Everything Copy Share Image
Happiness doesn't just happen. It must be pursued. And if the pursuit of the 'ultimate currency' of happiness helps us choose occupations… — Rachel Simmons Future Copy Share Image
Just like people date and break up, friends break up, too. 'Best friends forever' rarely ever happens; it's just that no one… — Rachel Simmons Best Copy Share Image
Isn't prom just a fun dance that hardworking students deserve? Sure, but it's also an event where girls internalize damaging cultural messages. — Rachel Simmons Dance Copy Share Image
When girls can be honest with each other, they can make mistakes on their own terms and discover through experience - and… — Rachel Simmons Experience Copy Share Image
When you're motivated by external rewards, it's often because you're trying to accomplish goals you didn't create yourself. — Rachel Simmons Accomplish Copy Share Image
We learn best when we're intrinsically motivated - that is, when we try something new for the sheer enjoyment of the experience. — Rachel Simmons Best Copy Share Image
Before I became a parent, I was a bestselling author and speaker pounding up the escalators of a different airport every week. — Rachel Simmons Airport Copy Share Image
If more students use self-compassion to reframe their failures, they may discover more nourishing sources of motivation and healthier strategies to pursue… — Rachel Simmons Compassion Copy Share Image
Failing well is a skill. Letting girls do it gives them critical practice coping with a negative experience. It also gives them… — Rachel Simmons Confidence Copy Share Image
When I went to prom in the early 1990s, I seesawed between my wish to get asked by the right guy and… — Rachel Simmons Cool Copy Share Image
For generations, black children have been brought up to have a critical race consciousness, a framework for dealing with prejudice and discrimination,… — Rachel Simmons Age Copy Share Image
Whether you chose a passive-aggressive husband, workaholic wife, or life of single motherhood, we are all officially allowed - and uniquely qualified… — Rachel Simmons Critique Copy Share Image
Classroom teachers can play an active role in instructing children about appropriate conduct online, even where there is no school policy on… — Rachel Simmons Advice Copy Share Image
Launching a kid into college is about more than having the money to pay for it. Parents invest so much of their… — Rachel Simmons Money Copy Share Image
I was a single mom by choice at 37, and if my love life hadn't quite panned out, most everything else had.… — Rachel Simmons Amazing Copy Share Image
If we want to end a culture rampant with harassment, we must listen to the adult women who are speaking out courageously.… — Rachel Simmons Culture Copy Share Image
Somebody once told me I treated my smart phone like Wilson, the volleyball Tom Hanks turns into a friend when he's stranded… — Rachel Simmons Comparison Copy Share Image
If the Internet has been called a great democratizer, perhaps what social media has done is let anyone enter the beauty pageant.… — Rachel Simmons Beauty Copy Share Image
As girls grow up and download what it means to be a culturally acceptable 'good girl,' they learn to please others at… — Rachel Simmons Girl Copy Share Image
It never hurts to tell your teen they matter more than their looks. — Rachel Simmons Hurts Copy Share Image
Jealousy is unavoidable - it's part of the price we pay for intimacy. — Rachel Simmons Intimacy Copy Share Image
Instagram rocks. I love it, and so do the youth I work with and study. — Rachel Simmons I love Copy Share Image
Be yourself and you will find, who minds doesn't matter and who matters won't mind. — Rachel Simmons Being yourself Copy Share Image
Silence is deeply woven into the fabric of female experience, — Rachel Simmons Fabric Copy Share Image
