Things falling apart is a kind of testing and also a kind of healing. — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
Tonglen practice begins to dissolve the illusion that each of us is alone with this personal suffering that no one else can… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
It isn't the things that happen to us in our lives that cause us to suffer, it's how we relate to the… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
The third noble truth says that the cessation of suffering is letting go of holding on to ourselves. — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
If you work with your mind, that will alleviate all the suffering that seems to come from the outside. — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
It isn't what happens to us that causes us to suffer; it's what we say to ourselves about what happens. — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
The first noble truth of the Buddha is that when we feel suffering, it doesn’t mean that something is wrong. What a… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
We can gradually drop our ideals of who we think we ought to be, or who we think we want to be,… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
“strengthening habitual patterns of suffering. We begin to see this more and more clearly, and we begin to realize that we can… — Pema Chödrön Copy Share Image
“When we resist change, it’s called suffering. But when we can completely let go and not struggle against it, when we can… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
So many of us start along the spiritual path because we are suffering. But you must realize that for real healing to… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
One very powerful and effective way to work with this tendency to push away pain and hold on to pleasure is the… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
We spend all our energy and waste our lives trying to re-create these zones of safety, which are always falling apart. That's… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
We have a choice. We can spend our whole life suffering because we can't relax with how things really are, or we… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
As human beings, not only do we seek resolution, but we also feel that we deserve resolution. However, not only do we… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
Hold the sadness and pain of samsara [suffering, confusion] in your heart and at the same time the power and vision of… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
Feelings like disappointment, embarrassment, irritation, resentment, anger, jealousy, and fear, instead of being bad news, are actually very clear moments that teach… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
“Thinking that we can find some lasting pleasure and avoid pain is what in Buddhism is called samsara, a hopeless cycle that… — Pema Chödrön Copy Share Image
In tonglen practice, when we see or feel suffering, we breathe in with the notion of completely feeling it, accepting it, and… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
We insist on being Someone, with a capital S. We get security from defining ourselves as worthless or worthy, superior or inferior.… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
For arousing compassion, the nineteenth-century yogi Patrul Rinpoche suggested imagining beings in torment - an animal about to be slaughtered, a person… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
The next time you lose heart and you can’t bear to experience what you’re feeling, you might recall this instruction: change the… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
The first noble truth of the Buddha is that when we feel suffering, it doesn’t mean that something is wrong. What a… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
On the journey of the warrior-bodhisattva, the path goes down, not up, as if the mountain pointed toward the earth instead of… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
“The very first noble truth of the Buddha points out that suffering is inevitable for human beings as long as we believe… — Pema Chödrön Copy Share Image
Most spiritual experiences begin with suffering. They begin with groundlessness. They begin when the rug has been pulled out from under us. — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
Use what seems like poison as medicine. Use your personal suffering as the path to compassion for all beings. — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
Impermanence is a principle of harmony. When we don't struggle against it, we are in harmony with reality. — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
To put it concisely, we suffer when we resist the noble and irrefutable truth of impermanence and death. — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
The root of suffering is resisting the certainty that no matter what the circumstances, uncertainty is all we truly have. — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
The second noble truth says that this resistance is the...mechanism of what we call ego, that resisting life causes suffering. — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
Somehow, in the process of trying to deny that things are always changing, we lose our sense of the sacredness of life.… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
Suffering begins to dissolve when we can question the belief or the hope that there's anywhere to hide. — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
“Just as the Buddha taught, it’s important to see suffering as suffering. We are not talking about ignoring or keeping quiet. When… — Pema Chödrön Copy Share Image
It isn't the things that are happening to us that cause us to suffer, it's what we say to ourselves about the… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
Underneath our ordinary lives, underneath all the talking we do, all the moving we do, all the thoughts in our minds, there's… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
Instead of asking ourselves, 'How can I find security and happiness?' we could ask ourselves, 'Can I touch the center of my… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
Come back to square one, just the minimum bare bones. Relaxing with the present moment, relaxing with hopelessness, relaxing with death, not… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
“LIFE’S work is to wake up, to let the things that enter into your life wake you up rather than put you to sleep.… — Pema Chödrön Copy Share Image
Since death is certain and the time of death is uncertain, what is the most important thing? — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
Buddhist words such as compassion and emptiness don't mean much until we start cultivating our innate ability simply to be there with pain with… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
The essence of generosity is letting go. Pain is always a sign that we are holding on to something - usually ourselves. — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
“If the object of meditation were something concrete, something solid and graspable - an image or a statue or a dot on the floor… — Pema Chödrön Copy Share Image
It's a transformative experience to simply pause instead of immediately fill up the space. By waiting, we begin to connect with fundamental restlessness as… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
“The essence of life is that it’s challenging. Sometimes it is sweet, and sometimes it is bitter. Sometimes your body tenses, and sometimes it… — Pema Chödrön Copy Share Image
If we run a hundred miles an hour to the other end of the continent in order to get away from the obstacle, we… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
“But in this meditation technique, we are with the out-breath; there's no particular instruction about what to do until the next out-breath.” — Pema Chödrön Copy Share Image
“Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know. Nothing ever really attacks us except our own confusion. Perhaps… — Pema Chödrön Copy Share Image
So even if the hot loneliness is there, and for 1.6 seconds we sit with that restlessness when yesterday we couldn't sit for even… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image
If you have rage and righteously act it out and blame it all on others, it's really you who suffers. The other people and… — Pema Chodron Copy Share Image