People Quotes by Pema Chödrön

As our kindness for ourselves grows, so does our kindness for other people.

— Pema Chodron

Tonglen is a way for you to be with people who need you - beginning with yourself.

— Pema Chodron

Difficult people are the greatest teachers.

— Pema Chodron

Usually we think that brave people have no fear. The truth is that they are intimate with fear.

— Pema Chodron

we come to realize that other people's welfare is just as important as our own. In helping them, we help ourselves. In…

— Pema Chodron

We are all capable of becoming fundamentalists because we get addicted to other people's wrongness.

— Pema Chodron

We don't set out to save the world; we set out to wonder how other people are doing and to reflect on…

— Pema Chodron

We can gradually drop our ideals of who we think we ought to be, or who we think we want to be,…

— Pema Chodron

We are not given any promises that, because of our noble intentions, everything will be okay. We learn that what truly heals…

— Pema Chodron

If you’re aggressive in your dealings, that’s how you’ll be regarded in the world. You might smile and give generously, but if…

— Pema Chodron

People get into a heavy-duty sin and guilt trip, feeling that if things are going wrong, that means that they did something…

— Pema Chodron

When people are hurting, what they really need is someone who is fully there for them - not someone who is condescending…

— Pema Chodron

Sometimes people's spiritual ideas become fixed and they use them against those who don't share their beliefs - in effect, becoming fundamentalist.…

— Pema Chodron

If you have rage and righteously act it out and blame it all on others, it's really you who suffers. The other…

— Pema Chodron

If seeing that other person's pain brings up your fear or anger or confusion (which often happens), just start doing tonglen for…

— Pema Chodron

The next step is to learn to communicate with the people that you feel are causing your pain and misery- not to…

— Pema Chodron

Instead of making others right or wrong, or bottling up right and wrong in ourselves, there's a middle way, a very powerful…

— Pema Chodron

The next time you encounter fear, consider yourself lucky. This is where the courage comes in. Usually we think that brave people…

— Pema Chodron

It is possible to move through the drama of our lives without believing so earnestly in the character that we play. That…

— Pema Chodron

People get into a heavy-duty sin and guilt trip, feeling that if things are going wrong, that means that they did something…

— Pema Chodron

Although it is embarrassing and painful, it is very healing to stop hiding from yourself. It is healing to know all the…

— Pema Chodron

Many people hope a spiritual practice will let them avoid what they are ashamed of. But when you hide something from yourself,…

— Pema Chodron

We think that by protecting ourselves from suffering, we are being kind to ourselves. The truth is we only become more fearful,…

— Pema Chodron

Be grateful to everyone" is about making peace with the aspects of ourselves that we have rejected... If we were to make…

— Pema Chodron

If your everyday practice is open to all your emotions, to all the people you meet, to all the situations you encounter,…

— Pema Chodron

The only reason we don't open our hearts and minds to other people is that they trigger confusion in us that we…

— Pema Chodron

Meditation is about seeing clearly the body that we have, the mind that we have, the domestic situation that we have, the…

— Pema Chodron

When you open yourself to the continually changing, impermanent, dynamic nature of your own being and of reality, you increase your capacity…

— Pema Chodron