“To act on this fear—a fear of being evaluated then dismissed by others—was to forgo a friendship that actually had some possibilities. In many instances, a preoccupation with appearances—unrealistic social expectations, impossible standards—can be the single largest barrier to a… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ In many instances, a preoccupation with appearances--unrealistic social expectations, impossible standards--can be the single largest barrier to a satisfying social life. When I talk about social expectations, I use the term “pecking order” to describe a kind of hierarchy… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ . . . Because of a lack of self-confidence and an inability to function independently . . .” It may be easier to… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, which is the reference manual used by mental health professionals to diagnose psychological problems, defines the… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Body Orientation When someone does approach and speak to you, pay careful attention to the extent to which you face that person. Facing… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Three Opening Topics of Conversation Use your information-gathering skills to devise topics that would interest you both. As your conversation proceeds, listen carefully… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Nodding You can nod your head to show that you are listening and understanding what is being said. Nodding is a sign of… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Posture The first impression you make is likely to be from several feet away. An observer will assess your approachability from a general… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“These days, there are many different ways to enjoy yourself, and the interactive requirements vary considerably, so it wouldn’t be too hard to find… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ LOW SELF-ESTEEM Characteristic of most people with social anxiety is low self-esteem. I showed you the sequence in Chapter 1. What is the… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Courting and Friendship Reciprocals Reciprocals are the signals people give each other to indicate an interest in companionship. When there is physical attraction,… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ The Resume Your resume is like an advertisement for you as a job candidate. It should present you in the best possible light.… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“It may help you to jot down a few notes to alleviate any fear of becoming tongue-tied—your name, the position or company you are… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“This portion of the chapter is directed at those of you whose son or daughter or other relative is in denial about his or… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“The more you understand about anxiety, the more you will be able to control it. Remember, social anxiety is not some abstract phenomenon or… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ CONVERSATION GUIDELINES What is the secret to good conversation? Shared interest in the subject; easy, natural flow from topic to topic; humor, when… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Changing Topics Changing topics gracefully is the hallmark of an excellent conversationalist. Changing topics keeps the conversation fresh and allows you to explore… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
