“As married people, we dwell on a spectrum between happy and unhappy, in love and out of love, and we move back and forth on that line decade by decade, year by year, week by week, even hour by hour.” — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“Forsaking all others means going deep with one person -- exhaustingly deep.” — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“So what's the secret to staying together?" I asked her. "Be nice?" she offered. I laughed, but that may be it, the way a… — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“The romantic fairy tales we grew up with -- where marriage is the happy ending rather than the opening scene -- are not useful… — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“The boring parts don't last forever. In retrospect, they aren't even boring.” — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“By staying married, we give something to ourselves and to others: hope. Hope that in steadfastly loving someone, we ourselves, for all our faults,… — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“There are a lot of really broken people. Unfortunately, especially for women, your sense of self and your viability is so under assault from this terrible culture focused on youth. Men have permission for eternal childhoods. So many people I know by all rights should have been married. They're sad. They're alone. They're hurt. They're angry at all the sexual… — Ada Calhoun Copy Share
“To love somebody is not just a strong feeling -- it is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise," writes psychologist Erich Fromm. "If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay… — Ada Calhoun Copy Share
“...even good marriages sometimes involve flinging a remote control at the wall.” — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“As married people, we dwell on a spectrum between happy and unhappy, in love and out of love, and we move back and forth… — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“People who don't marry miss both the pelting hardships of marriage and its warm rewards.” — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“Wherever you go, there you are. You would just have different problems. Are the problems you have now so bad that any other problems… — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“Failure is part of being human, and it is definitely part of being married.” — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
