“So what's the secret to staying together?" I asked her. "Be nice?" she offered. I laughed, but that may be it, the way a secret to losing weight is to eat less. Be nice. Don't leave. That's all.” — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“All the couples therapy and communication seminars in the world won't save you if you aren't prepared to close your eyes and hug the mainmast through a storm.” — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“Forsaking all others means going deep with one person -- exhaustingly deep.” — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“So what's the secret to staying together?" I asked her. "Be nice?" she offered. I laughed, but that may be it, the way a… — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“The romantic fairy tales we grew up with -- where marriage is the happy ending rather than the opening scene -- are not useful… — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“The boring parts don't last forever. In retrospect, they aren't even boring.” — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“By staying married, we give something to ourselves and to others: hope. Hope that in steadfastly loving someone, we ourselves, for all our faults,… — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“There are a lot of really broken people. Unfortunately, especially for women, your sense of self and your viability is so under assault from… — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“To love somebody is not just a strong feeling -- it is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise," writes psychologist… — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“...even good marriages sometimes involve flinging a remote control at the wall.” — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“As married people, we dwell on a spectrum between happy and unhappy, in love and out of love, and we move back and forth… — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“People who don't marry miss both the pelting hardships of marriage and its warm rewards.” — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“Wherever you go, there you are. You would just have different problems. Are the problems you have now so bad that any other problems… — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“Failure is part of being human, and it is definitely part of being married.” — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“I want to say that at various points in your marriage, may it last forever, you will look at this person and feel only… — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“The word "slut" has been invoked in the public discourse as an ugly slur. But Langella's book celebrates sluttiness as a worthy -- even… — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“...there is so much beauty in the trying, and in the failing, and in the trying again.” — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
