“At first you may feel shock or disbelief that a loss has occurred or an inability to recognize that it was really a loss. You know you’re hurt, but you want to repress it, suppress it, ignore it, or deny… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share Image
“Goal setting works best when you have long-term goals and short-term goals in different areas of your life. Of course, you’re not going to have goals in every area, but you want to choose enough different ones to sustain your interest. Some examples of goal areas are Family relationships and your home; Humanist, volunteer, philanthropy, ethical; Social, cultural, travel, entertainment;… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share
“You both have been through a trying time, and you must face that a break will do each of you a world of good. Now is the time to reassess where you’ve been and where you’re going, even if you’re going there together. You still need to take stock of yourself and the relationship so that you can figure out… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share
“After a breakup, you may also feel physically and mentally incapacitated in some way. You have trouble sleeping, or you sleep too much. You become accident-prone. You have trouble putting a sentence together. You feel scattered and overwhelmed by feelings. You may doubt your ability to function, and maybe your sanity. The emotions seem so big and so unmanageable that… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share
“My therapist would later explain to me that “water seeks its own level” and that your partner’s flaws and issues usually go hand in hand with your own. A person chooses a partner with a similar degree of “brokenness” and does a dance of dysfunction where they both know the steps. Therefore, one person cannot be so much healthier than… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share
“When you are asking why, when, how questions or trying to figure out how he or she could do what was done or how you can change into the person he or she will love, tell yourself, “It doesn’t matter, it doesn’t matter, it doesn’t matter.” Yes, three times is the charm with this particular mantra. Whenever you are ruminating… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share
“Several of my clients, students, and readers have come to realize that they spent all their adult lives in relationships in which they were… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share Image
“The pain of heartache often comes in unpredictable episodes of intense pain that come and go. These episodes are called grief “spasms”—you feel overwhelmed… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share Image
“At first you may feel shock or disbelief that a loss has occurred or an inability to recognize that it was really a loss.… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share Image
“The first thing to know is that grief is not a straight line. It doesn’t happen in “stages,” as is commonly thought; it happens… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share Image
“Stop worrying about what is wrong with you. While there might be things about you that need improvement, that doesn’t mean that you are… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share Image
“Learning that “water seeks its own level,” I was able to understand what issues needed attention by observing the people I was attracting and… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share Image
“Don’t ask for justifications for present or past behavior, or say how much you’ve been hurt. Yes, there are things you want this person… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share Image
