The adolescent does not develop her identity and individuality by moving outside her family. She is not triggered by some magic unconscious dynamic whereby she rejects her family in favour of her peers or of a larger society.... She continues… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
The family is constantly changing, as each member changes. Some changes we recognize as developments, and the pleasure they bringusually makes us more adaptable. Some changes threaten, or disappoint other members, who may try to resist the change, or punish… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
Adolescents swing from euphoric self-confidence and a kind of narcissistic strength in which they feel invulnerable and even immortal, to despair, self-emptiness, self-deprecation. At… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
Parents are never forgiven for not giving just the right response at the appropriate moment. Or, rather, there are particular times in the adolescent's… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
Preoccupied with her self, the adolescent sees enormous changes, whereas the parent sees the child she knew all along. For the parent, new developments… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
Adolescence has been recognised as a stage of human development since medieval times--long, long before the industrial revolution--and, as it is now, has long… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
Adolescent girls were fighting a mother's interference because they wanted her to acknowledge their independence. Whatever resentment they had was not towards a mother's… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
Adolescents, for all their self-involvement, are emerging from the self-centeredness of childhood. Their perception of other people has more depth. They are better equipped… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
Adolescents do get very angry with their parents, and acknowledging this anger is part of acknowledging them. If the anger is notacknowledged then its… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
This is the hope of many adolescent girls--to capture a parent's heart with love for them as they are, as people. They reject thenotion… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
The adolescent does not develop her identity and individuality by moving outside her family. She is not triggered by some magic unconscious dynamic whereby… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
It is not however, adulthood itself, but parenthood that forms the glass shroud of memory. For there is an interesting quirk in the memory… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
Parenting can be established as a time-share job, but mothers are less good "switching off" their parent identity and turning to something else. Many… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
We may be aware of small increments of getting older; we may meet an increasing number of people who make us uneasy with their… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
