“Bowlby's conviction that attachment needs continue throughout life and are not outgrown has important implications for psychotherapy. It means that the therapist inevitably becomes an important attachment figure for the patient, and that this is not necessarily best seen as… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“To feel attached is to feel safe and secure. By contrast, an insecurely attached person may have a mixture of feelings towards their attachment figure: intense love and dependency, fear of rejection, irritability and vigilance. One may theorise that their lack of security has aroused a simultaneous wish to be close and the angry determination to punish their attachment figure… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share
“Try to prise a limpet away from its rock and it will cling all the harder.” — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“A securely attached child will store an internal working model of a responsive, loving, reliable care-giver, and of a self that is worthy of… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“The unconscious operation of the attachment system via internal working models probably plays an important part in the choice of marital partner and relationship… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“So it is with grief where, if all goes well, can come a strengthening of the inner world, of memory and definition.” — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“Bowlby's conviction that attachment needs continue throughout life and are not outgrown has important implications for psychotherapy. It means that the therapist inevitably becomes… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“In Separation (1973a), Bowlby puts forward a theory of agoraphobia based on the notion of anxious attachment. He sees agoraphobia, like school phobia, as… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“John Donne's 'A Valediction: forbidding mourning' concerns a sea voyage, and uses the image of a circle as an antidote to the abyss of… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“A person's attachment status is a fundamental determinant of their relationships, and this is reflected in the way they feel about themselves and others.… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“The patient brings with him into therapy all the failures and suspicions and losses he has experienced through his life. The defensive forms of… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“Attachment exerted an invisible but powerful pull on the child, just as heavenly bodies are connected by gravitational forces. But unlike gravity, attachment makes… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“The ambivalent strategy involves clinging to the care-giver, often with excessive submissiveness, or adopting a role-reversal in which the care-giver is cared for rather… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
