Now before going to a party, I just tell myself to listen…
““Now before going to a party, I just tell myself to listen with affection to anyone who talks to me, to be in their shoes when they talk, to try to know them without my mind pressing against theirs, or arguing, or changing the subject. No. My attitude is: 'Tell me more.' This person is showing me his soul. It is a little dry and meager and full of grinding talk just now, but presently he will begin to think, not just automatically to talk. He will show his true self. Then he will be wonderfully alive.' ...Creative listeners are those who want you to be recklessly yourself, even at your very worst, even vituperative, bad-tempered. They are laughing and just delighted with any manifestation of yourself, bad or good. For true listeners know that if you are bad-tempered it does not mean that you are always so. They don't love you just when you are nice; they love all of you.””
About This Quote
This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.
Listening with genuine curiosity and empathy allows others to reveal their true selves, fostering deeper connection and growth.
In simple terms: Listen fully to let others be truly themselves.
Key Takeaway
Practice active, non‑judgmental listening.
Themes
communication
empathy
authenticity
growth
Mood
inspirational
empathetic
Type
philosophical
practical
When to use this quote
- counseling
- team building
- friendship
- leadership development
Key Concepts
psychology
mindfulness
Questions to Reflect On
- What does “Tell me more” invite in conversation?
- How can you stay present when listening?
A Different Perspective
Listening alone doesn’t change behavior; requires mutual effort.