The terror of the ordinary is what keeps many affluent, educated parents and their kids out of the merely 'decent' schools, the… — Sandra Tsing Loh Copy Share Image
We women make the lion's share of household purchases in this country. We ourselves drive billions of dollars a year in sales. — Sandra Tsing Loh Country Copy Share Image
In Los Angeles, we've seen a phenomenon where a school will go from one that no one will go to, to within… — Sandra Tsing Loh Copy Share Image
I am shamed to realize that in my marriage, my daughters never heard their father and me fight, which also meant, perhaps,… — Sandra Tsing Loh Children Copy Share Image
Many men today can cook, or at least order takeout, and know where and how to hire domestic help, perhaps with refreshing… — Sandra Tsing Loh Clarity Copy Share Image
Menopause is your return to where you were before, when your hormone levels are the same as a pre-adolescent girl's. — Sandra Tsing Loh Girl Copy Share Image
While having two biological parents at home is, the statistics tell us, best for children, a single-parent household is almost as good. — Sandra Tsing Loh Copy Share Image
The problem is that, partly because we are women, a large measure of our happiness depends on our relationships - including, unavoidably,… — Sandra Tsing Loh Feminism Copy Share Image
My guitarist husband, Mike, and writer me are the old-fashioned kind of bohemians. Not 'fro-haired hipsters gyrating in iPod ads, but the… — Sandra Tsing Loh Bohemians Copy Share Image
Beating up on public schools is not just our nation's favorite blood sport, but also a favorite conversational entertainment of the well-off… — Sandra Tsing Loh Copy Share Image
Recently it was pointed out to me - in a kind of hurtful way, to be honest - that people in Los… — Sandra Tsing Loh Copy Share Image
In our youths, many of us suspected that being tied down to a partner and family might constrain us. But after 40,… — Sandra Tsing Loh Family Copy Share Image
When husbands and wives not only co-work but try to co-homemake, as post-feminist and well-intentioned as it is, out goes the clear… — Sandra Tsing Loh Authority Copy Share Image
I think private school is much better at customer service and making the parents feel better, especially in Los Angeles. It's almost… — Sandra Tsing Loh Copy Share Image
Struggling with my finances, nudging toward 50, I sometimes daydream about being happily married to a matching frugaholic husband in a matching… — Sandra Tsing Loh Copy Share Image
Although my life is far from perfect, the irony is that in a divorced parent's custody schedule - with days on and… — Sandra Tsing Loh Copy Share Image
A deep river of must-have school mania runs through the chattering classes. There is, of course, the parental adrenaline rush at suburban… — Sandra Tsing Loh Adrenaline rush Copy Share Image
Almost 50 years old now, some 30 years after graduation, I look at my Caltech classmates and conclude that math whizzes do… — Sandra Tsing Loh Classmates Copy Share Image
I don't know how it's going for my sisters, but as my 40s and Verizon bills and mortgage payments roll on, I… — Sandra Tsing Loh Copy Share Image
Things need shaking up when American women feel endangered even as Yosemite bears lumber around belching, their eyes glazed with surfeit, their… — Sandra Tsing Loh Copy Share Image
When I think of Chinese parents, I think of people who weep upon hearing Beethoven, but who can't necessarily bring that joy… — Sandra Tsing Loh Copy Share Image
I really don't think our school system is an evil borg force. It's sort of like the government. It's not even efficient… — Sandra Tsing Loh Education Copy Share Image
The paradox is, I can't miss the good things about my father while he is alive, but I will of course miss… — Sandra Tsing Loh Alive Copy Share Image
In twenty-first-century America, our stories have become one and the same: we work to consume, we live to consume, we are what… — Sandra Tsing Loh America Copy Share Image
I think that in L.A., one thing that nobody will ever talk about is, for instance, how just one in five kids… — Sandra Tsing Loh City Copy Share Image
Very, very few adults possess so much charm that they can long be supported by another adult based on that attribute alone. — Sandra Tsing Loh Copy Share Image
I'd be lying if I claimed that, in spite of our amiable afternoons, I don't have an ache somewhere in my heart… — Sandra Tsing Loh Copy Share Image
I think of the friends of mine who were blissfully single in their 20s and 30s. Still single in their 40s and… — Sandra Tsing Loh Friends Copy Share Image
Having blown up my own long-term marriage via an extramarital affair, followed by a traumatic divorce, I tend to think of love… — Sandra Tsing Loh Fitness Copy Share Image
Journalists are quite surprised outside their dinner parties when they hear where I live. 'Van Nuys? You still live there?' It is… — Sandra Tsing Loh Copy Share Image
In 1900, the average life expectancy of a US citizen was 48, so most menopausal women were dead, which is not a… — Sandra Tsing Loh Copy Share Image
The bad news in our most cosmopolitan and vibrant cities is that many middle-class people can no longer afford to live in… — Sandra Tsing Loh Copy Share Image
Some of us stay married because we're in competition with our divorcing 1960s and 1970s parents, who made such a hash of… — Sandra Tsing Loh Competition Copy Share Image
Work... family - I'm doing it all. But here's the secret I share with so many other nanny- and housekeeper-less mothers I… — Sandra Tsing Loh Balance Copy Share Image
In my case, when it arrived at 49, perimenopause was terrifying and like nothing I had ever before physically experienced. — Sandra Tsing Loh Copy Share Image
I am a member of the 'sandwich' generation, that group that must simultaneously care for elderly parents and support children. — Sandra Tsing Loh Children Copy Share Image
Yes, I was one of the slightly vintage women who let out a shriek when we saw it at Costco: 'The Nancy… — Sandra Tsing Loh Mystery Copy Share Image
I think my father, who was Chinese, basically felt if we didn't major in science, we would starve on the streets, so… — Sandra Tsing Loh Father Copy Share Image
In the end, the real wisdom of menopause may be in questioning how fun or even sane this chore wheel called modern… — Sandra Tsing Loh Copy Share Image
I'm a journalist, so my friends are journalists: magazines, newspapers, even public radio. Nobody had their kids in public school. — Sandra Tsing Loh Copy Share Image
