Physical aggression by a man toward his partner is abuse, even if it happens only once. If he raises a fist; punches… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“The symptoms of abuse are there, and the woman usually sees them: the escalating frequency of put-downs. Early generosity turning more and… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“Boys’ aggressiveness is increasingly being treated as a medical problem, particularly in schools, a trend that has led to the diagnosing and… — Lundy Bancroft Ableism Copy Share Image
“Each human being deals with hurt or resentment in a unique way. When you feel insulted or bullied, you may reach for… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“I have sometimes said to a client: “If you are so in touch with your feelings from your abusive childhood, then you… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“A home where a woman is abused is a small-scale model of much larger oppressive systems that work in remarkably similar ways.… — Lundy Bancroft Abuser Copy Share Image
“On some level he hopes that his ability to transport you sexually will tie you to him, so that he can have… — Lundy Bancroft Faith Copy Share Image
“One of the obstacles to recognizing chronic mistreatment in relationships is that most abusive men simply don’t seem like abusers. They have… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“The central attitudes driving the Player are: Women were put on this earth to have sex with men—especially me. Women who want… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“Alcohol does not a change a person’s fundamental value system. People’s personalities when intoxicated, even though somewhat altered, still bear some relationship… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“Your abusive partner’s cycles of moving in and out of periods of cruelty can cause you to feel very close to him… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“The central attitudes driving the Victim are: Everybody has done me wrong, especially the women I’ve been involved with. Poor me. When… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“The central attitudes driving Rambo are: Strength and aggressiveness are good; compassion and conflict resolution are bad. Anything that could be even… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
It is not possible to be truly balanced in one's views of an abuser and an abused woman. As Dr. Judith Herman… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“He knows he used to be able to control you with charm, affection and promises. He also remembers how well intimidation or… — Lundy Bancroft Abuser Copy Share Image
“The confusion of love with abuse is what allows abusers who kill their partners to make the absurd claim that they were… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“The man’s rights and the woman’s rights are the same size. They have the right to have their opinions and desires respected,… — Lundy Bancroft Decision making Copy Share Image
