The results of any traumatic experience, such as abuse, can only be resolved by experiencing, articulating, and judging every facet of the… — Alice Miller Abuse Copy Share Image
“Behind manifest grandiosity, there constantly lurks depression, and behind a depressive mood there often hide unconscious (or conscious but split off) fantasies… — Alice Miller Deep pain Copy Share Image
Discipline is ... life-inhibiting, is at the very least curtailment of vital activity insofar as the latter cannot develop as it wishes… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The grandiose person is never really free; first because he is excessively dependent on admiration from others, and second, because his self-respect… — Alice Miller Achievement Copy Share Image
Genuine feelings are never the product of conscious effort. They are quite simply there, and they are there for a very good… — Alice Miller Authenticity Copy Share Image
“Enforced love is not love. All it can lead to is a "sham" relationship without any genuine communication, a pretense of warmth… — Alice Miller Affection Copy Share Image
The abused children are alone with their suffering, not only within the family, but also within themselves. They cannot crate a place… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
It is precisely because a child's feelings are so strong that they cannot be repressed without serious consequences. The stronger a prisoner… — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
He has given ample evidence of qualities hardly any other living statesman has demonstrated to the same degree: the courage to look… — Alice Miller Absence Copy Share Image
The knowledge that you were beaten and that this, as your parents tell you, was for your own good may well be… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“Some sense that to repress feelings of their childhood is to poison the very well-springs of life; they know that though repression… — Alice Miller Adult life Copy Share Image
“The fact is that an unscrupulous tyrant mobilizes the suppressed fears and anxieties of those who were beaten as children but have… — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
“Probably every child who has suffered abuse must assume an attitude like this in order to survive. These children reinterpret their perceptions… — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
The truth about our childhood is stored up in our body, and although we can repress it, we can never alter it.… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Till now, society has protected the adult and blamed the victim. It has been abetted in its blindness by theories, still in… — Alice Miller Adults Copy Share Image
“Can forgivenes for the crimes done to a child be not just ineffective but actively harmful? It certainly can because the body… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
someday we will regard our children not as creatures to manipulate or to change but rather as messengers from a world we… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
I sincerely believe that we not only have the right to know what is good and what is evil; we have the… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Today I should not be identified with any kind of regressive therapy. Wherever I look, I see signs of the commandment to… — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
“If We do not do everything we can to understand the roots of this hatred, even the most elaborate strategic agreements will… — Alice Miller Hatred Copy Share Image
“I've spoken of the patient Peter who was obsessively forced to make conquests with women, to seduce and then to abandon them,… — Alice Miller Abandonment Copy Share Image
Many people suffer all their lives from this oppressive feeling of guilt, the sense of not having lived up to their parents'… — Alice Miller Argument Copy Share Image
It is not true that evil, destructiveness , and perversion inevitably form part of human existence, no matter how often this is… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Every life and every childhood is filled with frustrations; we cannot imagine it otherwise, for even the best mother cannot satisfy all… — Alice Miller Best mother Copy Share Image
In the short term, corporal punishment may produce obedience. But it is a fact documented by research that in the long term… — Alice Miller Addiction Copy Share Image
“Even if one ultimately risks losing all contact with oneself and merely functioning as a mask, an "as if" personality, there are… — Alice Miller True story Copy Share Image
“Today's children and grandchildren are entitled to be aware, they are entitled to believe what they saw and felt as children. They… — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
Without realizing that the past is constantly determining their present actions, they avoid learning anything about their history. They continue to live… — Alice Miller Action Copy Share Image
“Of course, people who have been severed from their true feelings since early childhood will be dependent on institutions like the church… — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
People whose integrity has not been damaged in childhood, who were protected, respected, and treated with honesty by their parents, will be-both… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
People who, as children, were intellectually far beyond their parents and therefore admired by them, but who also therefore had to solve… — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
Quite often I have been faced with people who were praised and admired for their talents and their achievements... According to prevailing… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“As adults, we will hate only if we remain trapped in a situation in which we cannot give free expression to our… — Alice Miller Free expression Copy Share Image
“To break through this vicious circle we need to understand that so-called love cannot survive abuse, deception, and exploitation without seeking new… — Alice Miller Abuse Copy Share Image
The achievement of freedom is hardly possible without the felt mourning. This ability to mourn, i.e, to give up the illusion of… — Alice Miller Ability Copy Share Image
“As a rule, beaten, tormented, and humiliated children who have never received support from a helping witness later develop a high degree… — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
For some years now, there has been proof that the devastating effects of the traumatization of children take their inevitable tollon society--a… — Alice Miller Blind Copy Share Image
“The only thing that can protect us from repetition is the admission of the truth—the whole truth, with all its implications. Once… — Alice Miller Parenting Copy Share Image
Children who are respected learn respect. Children who are cared for learn to care for those weaker than themselves. Children who are… — Alice Miller Care Copy Share Image
“The older we get, the more difficult it is to find other people who can give us the love our parents denied… — Alice Miller Parenting Copy Share Image
