All children are born to grow, to develop, to live, to love, and to articulate their needs and feelings for their self-protection — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Good manners are the technique of expressing considerations for the feelings of others. — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Genuine feelings cannot be produced, nor can they be eradicated. We can only repress them, delude ourselves, and deceive our bodies. The… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The true opposite of depression is not gaiety or absence of pain, but vitality: the freedom to experience spontaneous feelings. — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The free expression of resentment against one's parents represents a great opportunity. It provides access to one's true self, reactivates numbed feelings,… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“Once we have learned to live with our feelings and not to fight against them, we see in the manifestations of our… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
If we do not work on all three levels -- body, feeling, mind -- the symptoms of our distress will keep returning,… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The art of not experiencing feelings. A child can experience her feelings only when there is somebody there who accepts her fully,… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Genuine feelings are never the product of conscious effort. They are quite simply there, and they are there for a very good… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
It is precisely because a child's feelings are so strong that they cannot be repressed without serious consequences. The stronger a prisoner… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
It was not the beautiful or pleasant feelings that gave me new insight, but the ones against which I fought most strongly:… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The truth about our childhood is stored up in our body, and although we can repress it, we can never alter it.… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Many people suffer all their lives from this oppressive feeling of guilt, the sense of not having lived up to their parents'… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
People who, as children, were intellectually far beyond their parents and therefore admired by them, but who also therefore had to solve… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Quite often I have been faced with people who were praised and admired for their talents and their achievements... According to prevailing… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Almost everywhere we find . . . the use of various coercive measures, to rid ourselves as quickly as possible of the child withinus--i.e.,… — Alice Miller Copy Share
Wherever I look, I see signs of the commandment to honor one's parents and nowhere of a commandment that calls for the respect of… — Alice Miller Copy Share
The art of not experiencing feelings. A child can experience her feelings only when there is somebody there who accepts her fully, understands her,… — Alice Miller Copy Share
“Even if one ultimately risks losing all contact with oneself and merely functioning as a mask, an "as if" personality, there are always drugs,… — Alice Miller Copy Share
“Thus he spent his whole life searching for his own truth, but it remained hidden to him because he had learned at a very… — Alice Miller Copy Share
“Most people do exactly the opposite. Without realizing that the past is constantly determining their present actions, they avoid learning anything about their history.… — Alice Miller Copy Share
People who, as children, were intellectually far beyond their parents and therefore admired by them, but who also therefore had to solve their own… — Alice Miller Copy Share
Parents are indeed capable of routinely torturing their children without anyone interceding. — Alice Miller Copy Share
Ultimately the body will rebel. Even if it can be temporarily pacified with the help of drugs, cigarettes or medicine, it usually has the… — Alice Miller Copy Share
The child has a primary need to be regarded and respected as the person he really is at any given time, and as the… — Alice Miller Copy Share
For some years now, there has been proof that the devastating effects of the traumatization of children take their inevitable tollon society--a fact that… — Alice Miller Copy Share
“The older we get, the more difficult it is to find other people who can give us the love our parents denied us. But… — Alice Miller Copy Share
It is very difficult for people to believe the simple fact that every persecutor was once a victim. Yet it should be very obvious… — Alice Miller Copy Share
We don't yet know, above all, what the world might be like if children were to grow up without being subjected to humiliation, if… — Alice Miller Copy Share
