The commandment to refrain from placing blame on our parents, deeply imprinted in us by our upbringing, skillfully performs the function of… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
If a mother respects both herself and her child from his very first day onward, she will never need to teach him… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Wherever I look, I see signs of the commandment to honor one's parents and nowhere of a commandment that calls for the… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Parents are indeed capable of routinely torturing their children without anyone interceding. — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The father receives his power from God (and from his own father). The teacher finds the soil already prepared for obedience, and… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The reason why parents mistreat their children has less to do with character and temperament than with the fact that they were… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The free expression of resentment against one's parents represents a great opportunity. It provides access to one's true self, reactivates numbed feelings,… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“The answer is that we can never do the right thing as long as we are out to please someone else. We… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Every child has a legitimate narcissistic need to be noticed, understood, taken seriously, and respected by his mother. In the first weeks… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The knowledge that you were beaten and that this, as your parents tell you, was for your own good may well be… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Anyone who has ever been a mother or father and is at all honest knows from experience how difficult it can be… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The art of not experiencing feelings. A child can experience her feelings only when there is somebody there who accepts her fully,… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The attempt to be an ideal parent, that is, to behave correctly toward the child, to raise her correctly, not to give… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“The fact is that an unscrupulous tyrant mobilizes the suppressed fears and anxieties of those who were beaten as children but have… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Till now, society has protected the adult and blamed the victim. It has been abetted in its blindness by theories, still in… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Many people suffer all their lives from this oppressive feeling of guilt, the sense of not having lived up to their parents'… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Every life and every childhood is filled with frustrations; we cannot imagine it otherwise, for even the best mother cannot satisfy all… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
People whose integrity has not been damaged in childhood, who were protected, respected, and treated with honesty by their parents, will be-both… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
People who, as children, were intellectually far beyond their parents and therefore admired by them, but who also therefore had to solve… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“The only thing that can protect us from repetition is the admission of the truth—the whole truth, with all its implications. Once… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“This ability of the body is a source of never-ending wonder to me. It fights against lies with a tenacity and a… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“The older we get, the more difficult it is to find other people who can give us the love our parents denied… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
I have never known a patient to portray his parents more negatively than he actually experienced them in childhood but always more… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
We don't yet know, above all, what the world might be like if children were to grow up without being subjected to… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
someday we will regard our children not as creatures to manipulate or to change but rather as messengers from a world we… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Today I should not be identified with any kind of regressive therapy. Wherever I look, I see signs of the commandment to… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“I've spoken of the patient Peter who was obsessively forced to make conquests with women, to seduce and then to abandon them,… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Almost everywhere we find . . . the use of various coercive measures, to rid ourselves as quickly as possible of the child withinus--i.e.,… — Alice Miller Copy Share
Wherever I look, I see signs of the commandment to honor one's parents and nowhere of a commandment that calls for the respect of… — Alice Miller Copy Share
The art of not experiencing feelings. A child can experience her feelings only when there is somebody there who accepts her fully, understands her,… — Alice Miller Copy Share
“Even if one ultimately risks losing all contact with oneself and merely functioning as a mask, an "as if" personality, there are always drugs,… — Alice Miller Copy Share
“Thus he spent his whole life searching for his own truth, but it remained hidden to him because he had learned at a very… — Alice Miller Copy Share
“Most people do exactly the opposite. Without realizing that the past is constantly determining their present actions, they avoid learning anything about their history.… — Alice Miller Copy Share
People who, as children, were intellectually far beyond their parents and therefore admired by them, but who also therefore had to solve their own… — Alice Miller Copy Share
Parents are indeed capable of routinely torturing their children without anyone interceding. — Alice Miller Copy Share
Ultimately the body will rebel. Even if it can be temporarily pacified with the help of drugs, cigarettes or medicine, it usually has the… — Alice Miller Copy Share
The child has a primary need to be regarded and respected as the person he really is at any given time, and as the… — Alice Miller Copy Share
For some years now, there has been proof that the devastating effects of the traumatization of children take their inevitable tollon society--a fact that… — Alice Miller Copy Share
“The older we get, the more difficult it is to find other people who can give us the love our parents denied us. But… — Alice Miller Copy Share
It is very difficult for people to believe the simple fact that every persecutor was once a victim. Yet it should be very obvious… — Alice Miller Copy Share
We don't yet know, above all, what the world might be like if children were to grow up without being subjected to humiliation, if… — Alice Miller Copy Share
