We produce destructive people by the way we are treating them in childhood. — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The more we idealize the past and refuse to acknowledge our childhood sufferings, the more we pass them on unconsciously to the… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Sadism is not an infectious disease that strikes a person all of a sudden. It has a long prehistory in childhood and… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Experience has taught us that we have only one enduring weapon in our struggle against mental illness: the emotional discovery and emotional… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
It is possible to resolve childhood repression safely and without confusion - something that has always been disputed by the most respected… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
I have never known a patient to portray his parents more negatively than he actually experienced them in childhood but always more… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
It is very difficult for people to believe the simple fact that every persecutor was once a victim. Yet it should be… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The truth about childhood, as many of us have had to endure it, is inconceivable, scandalous, painful. Not uncommonly, it is monstrous.… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The truth about our childhood is stored up in our body, and although we can repress it, we can never alter it.… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
It is not true that evil, destructiveness , and perversion inevitably form part of human existence, no matter how often this is… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Every life and every childhood is filled with frustrations; we cannot imagine it otherwise, for even the best mother cannot satisfy all… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Without realizing that the past is constantly determining their present actions, they avoid learning anything about their history. They continue to live… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
People whose integrity has not been damaged in childhood, who were protected, respected, and treated with honesty by their parents, will be-both… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The achievement of freedom is hardly possible without the felt mourning. This ability to mourn, i.e, to give up the illusion of… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“Some sense that to repress feelings of their childhood is to poison the very well-springs of life; they know that though repression… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Almost everywhere we find . . . the use of various coercive measures, to rid ourselves as quickly as possible of the child withinus--i.e.,… — Alice Miller Copy Share
Wherever I look, I see signs of the commandment to honor one's parents and nowhere of a commandment that calls for the respect of… — Alice Miller Copy Share
The art of not experiencing feelings. A child can experience her feelings only when there is somebody there who accepts her fully, understands her,… — Alice Miller Copy Share
“Even if one ultimately risks losing all contact with oneself and merely functioning as a mask, an "as if" personality, there are always drugs,… — Alice Miller Copy Share
“Thus he spent his whole life searching for his own truth, but it remained hidden to him because he had learned at a very… — Alice Miller Copy Share
“Most people do exactly the opposite. Without realizing that the past is constantly determining their present actions, they avoid learning anything about their history.… — Alice Miller Copy Share
People who, as children, were intellectually far beyond their parents and therefore admired by them, but who also therefore had to solve their own… — Alice Miller Copy Share
Parents are indeed capable of routinely torturing their children without anyone interceding. — Alice Miller Copy Share
Ultimately the body will rebel. Even if it can be temporarily pacified with the help of drugs, cigarettes or medicine, it usually has the… — Alice Miller Copy Share
The child has a primary need to be regarded and respected as the person he really is at any given time, and as the… — Alice Miller Copy Share
For some years now, there has been proof that the devastating effects of the traumatization of children take their inevitable tollon society--a fact that… — Alice Miller Copy Share
“The older we get, the more difficult it is to find other people who can give us the love our parents denied us. But… — Alice Miller Copy Share
It is very difficult for people to believe the simple fact that every persecutor was once a victim. Yet it should be very obvious… — Alice Miller Copy Share
We don't yet know, above all, what the world might be like if children were to grow up without being subjected to humiliation, if… — Alice Miller Copy Share
