The attempt to be an ideal parent, that is, to behave…
“The attempt to be an ideal parent, that is, to behave correctly toward the child, to raise her correctly, not to give to little ortoo much, is in essence an attempt to be the ideal child--well behaved and dutiful--of one's own parents. But as a result of these efforts the needs of the child go unnoticed. I cannot listen to my child with empathy if I am inwardly preoccupied with being a good mother; I cannot be open to what she is telling me.”
About This Quote
This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.
Highlights how striving for perfection as a parent can blind one to a child’s real needs.
In simple terms: Perfect parenting can ignore a child’s true needs.
Key Takeaway
Prioritize empathy over perfection.
Themes
parenting
empathy
perfectionism
child development
Mood
reflective
empathetic
Type
psychological
advisory
When to use this quote
- parent‑child interactions
- education
- therapy
- family meetings
Key Concepts
psychodynamic theory
attachment theory
Questions to Reflect On
- How can parents stay present while managing expectations?
- What signs show you’re missing your child’s cues?
A Different Perspective
May overlook systemic pressures on parents.