Rachel Simmons

It's not easy to let our kids be less than perfect.

— Rachel Simmons

I am a recovering rat racer.

— Rachel Simmons

When I was 24, I won a Rhodes Scholarship.

— Rachel Simmons

Self-knowledge is the foundation of real success.

— Rachel Simmons

Feeling jealous doesn't make you a terrible person.

— Rachel Simmons

We have to teach girls communication skills.

— Rachel Simmons

As parents, we must be mindful that our actions are matching our words.

— Rachel Simmons

Girls who use jokes to be nasty are often hiding other feelings they are struggling to express.

— Rachel Simmons

Harassment is one of puberty's darkest, most unreported rites of passage.

— Rachel Simmons

There is no gesture more devastating than the back turning away.

— Rachel Simmons

Knowing that your parents are okay makes you feel secure in the world.

— Rachel Simmons

The Internet foments outrageous behavior in part because it is a 'gray area' for social interactions.

— Rachel Simmons

When your child believes you really respect what he's feeling, he'll be much more likely to trust you.

— Rachel Simmons

From childhood to adolescence, girls face mixed messages about displaying power and authority.

— Rachel Simmons

Girls must understand not only their moral obligation but their power to be allies to each other at parties and other potentially…

— Rachel Simmons

Taking full advantage of all that college offers can be tough for teens facing a major life transition under pressure to perform.…

— Rachel Simmons

“Parents are satisfied only if their children are gifted or exceptional (or diagnosed with a treatable problem that the right pill cocktail…

— Rachel Simmons

Raising your hand when you're not sure you have the right answer helps you take risks with your ideas and put yourself…

— Rachel Simmons

Many of us endure pain in the service of beauty every single day. We rip off our hair with hot wax, jam…

— Rachel Simmons

I've spent years in therapy excavating my endless, often fruitless drive to overachieve. I have learned that being successful hasn't made me…

— Rachel Simmons

You can give them the opportunity to thrive, but when it comes to finding happiness or success, kids are really on their…

— Rachel Simmons

“Many teachers, especially those in more affluent communities, believe they are treated no better than a customer-service representative at a store.”

— Rachel Simmons

There are many ways to be the odd girl out. Your pain can brief or lasting, visible to all or none, with…

— Rachel Simmons

Empathy isn't the same thing as expressing emotions. It's not about sharing your feelings - it can be really uncomfortable if a…

— Rachel Simmons

When I did the original research for 'Odd Girl Out,' I asked every bullied girl I interviewed to tell me what she…

— Rachel Simmons

You don't learn how to say 'hey, I have a problem,' but you also don't learn how to hear it. There's a…

— Rachel Simmons

“Perceiving a choice between her feelings and her relationships, Dana chose to be liked by others. But the self she displayed was…

— Rachel Simmons

Sometimes comparing can be a good thing: it can inspire us to work harder and reach farther. But for the most part,…

— Rachel Simmons

No matter how much you urge them to relax and how much you mean it, your child probably grapples with highly stressful…

— Rachel Simmons

Most parents would not hesitate to assume responsibility for their child's behavior on a playground, at school, or in someone else's home.…

— Rachel Simmons

“Shame is a virus that creates paralysis in its hosts. When you're busy telling yourself what a bad person you are, you…

— Rachel Simmons

These days, the selfie and its main outlet, Instagram, generally come in for much adult loathing. But consider this: The selfie is…

— Rachel Simmons

“...with her self-esteem perilously balanced on her excellence, she could only interpret failure as catastrophic. Lilly shamed herself when she made a…

— Rachel Simmons

Ours is not a culture that cares much for the work of care.

— Rachel Simmons

Teaching girls to agitate over every problem implies that relationships, and people, can bend to our will.

— Rachel Simmons

Painful breakups can have profound effects on the body and mind.

— Rachel Simmons

Prom drops girls squarely into the beauty spending pipeline.

— Rachel Simmons

It never hurts to tell your teen they matter more than their looks.

— Rachel Simmons

Jealousy is unavoidable - it's part of the price we pay for intimacy.

— Rachel Simmons

Be yourself and you will find, who minds doesn't matter and who matters won't mind.

— Rachel Simmons