I am convinced that an immense number of people who have…
““I am convinced that an immense number of people who have children should not have them, and do not particularly want them, except as "symbols" of family life. What they want are ideal children, not real ones; and as soon as the real ones show no intention of conforming to the ideal in the parent's mind, they are treated as burdens, shipped away to school or otherwise neglected.””
About This Quote
This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.
Many parents idealize children, rejecting real imperfections, leading to neglect or institutionalization.
In simple terms: Parents may idealize kids.
Key Takeaway
Recognize and love children as they are.
Themes
parenting
expectations
neglect
Mood
concerned
empathetic
Type
social
critical
When to use this quote
- adoption
- education
- social services
Key Concepts
family dynamics
psychology
Questions to Reflect On
- How can parents accept imperfect children?
- What support helps families avoid neglect?
A Different Perspective
Idealization can prevent healthy parent‑child bonds.