Every life and every childhood is filled with frustrations; we cannot imagine it otherwise, for even the best mother cannot satisfy all… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
In the short term, corporal punishment may produce obedience. But it is a fact documented by research that in the long term… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“Can forgivenes for the crimes done to a child be not just ineffective but actively harmful? It certainly can because the body… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Till now, society has protected the adult and blamed the victim. It has been abetted in its blindness by theories, still in… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Many people suffer all their lives from this oppressive feeling of guilt, the sense of not having lived up to their parents'… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“The fact is that an unscrupulous tyrant mobilizes the suppressed fears and anxieties of those who were beaten as children but have… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The truth about our childhood is stored up in our body, and although we can repress it, we can never alter it.… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The art of not experiencing feelings. A child can experience her feelings only when there is somebody there who accepts her fully,… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The achievement of freedom is hardly possible without the felt mourning. This ability to mourn, i.e, to give up the illusion of… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Children who are respected learn respect. Children who are cared for learn to care for those weaker than themselves. Children who are… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
For some years now, there has been proof that the devastating effects of the traumatization of children take their inevitable tollon society--a… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
People whose integrity has not been damaged in childhood, who were protected, respected, and treated with honesty by their parents, will be-both… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
People who, as children, were intellectually far beyond their parents and therefore admired by them, but who also therefore had to solve… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Without realizing that the past is constantly determining their present actions, they avoid learning anything about their history. They continue to live… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“Today's children and grandchildren are entitled to be aware, they are entitled to believe what they saw and felt as children. They… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Almost everywhere we find . . . the use of various coercive measures, to rid ourselves as quickly as possible of the child withinus--i.e.,… — Alice Miller Copy Share
Wherever I look, I see signs of the commandment to honor one's parents and nowhere of a commandment that calls for the respect of… — Alice Miller Copy Share
The art of not experiencing feelings. A child can experience her feelings only when there is somebody there who accepts her fully, understands her,… — Alice Miller Copy Share
“Even if one ultimately risks losing all contact with oneself and merely functioning as a mask, an "as if" personality, there are always drugs,… — Alice Miller Copy Share
“Thus he spent his whole life searching for his own truth, but it remained hidden to him because he had learned at a very… — Alice Miller Copy Share
“Most people do exactly the opposite. Without realizing that the past is constantly determining their present actions, they avoid learning anything about their history.… — Alice Miller Copy Share
People who, as children, were intellectually far beyond their parents and therefore admired by them, but who also therefore had to solve their own… — Alice Miller Copy Share
Parents are indeed capable of routinely torturing their children without anyone interceding. — Alice Miller Copy Share
Ultimately the body will rebel. Even if it can be temporarily pacified with the help of drugs, cigarettes or medicine, it usually has the… — Alice Miller Copy Share
The child has a primary need to be regarded and respected as the person he really is at any given time, and as the… — Alice Miller Copy Share
For some years now, there has been proof that the devastating effects of the traumatization of children take their inevitable tollon society--a fact that… — Alice Miller Copy Share
“The older we get, the more difficult it is to find other people who can give us the love our parents denied us. But… — Alice Miller Copy Share
It is very difficult for people to believe the simple fact that every persecutor was once a victim. Yet it should be very obvious… — Alice Miller Copy Share
We don't yet know, above all, what the world might be like if children were to grow up without being subjected to humiliation, if… — Alice Miller Copy Share
