Long time Quote by Tom Robbins
““The highest function of love is that it makes the loved one a unique and irreplaceable being. Still, lovers quarrel. Frequently, they quarrel simply to recharge the air between them, to sharpen the aliveness of their relationship. To precipitate such a quarrel, the sweaty kimono of sexual jealousy is usually dragged out of the hamper, although almost any excuse will do. Only rarely is the spat rooted in the beet-deep soil of serious issue, but when it is, a special sadness attends it, for the mind is slower to heal than the heart, and such quarrels can doom a union, even one that has prospered for a very long time.””
About This Quote
Source Book: Still Life with Woodpeckers by Tom Robbins, 1980
Love’s deepest purpose is to make each partner feel irreplaceable, yet quarrels can refresh or threaten that bond, especially when rooted in deeper issues.
In simple terms: Love makes partners feel unique; quarrels can be refreshing or harmful.
Key Takeaway
Recognize and address deeper conflicts early.
Themes
love
relationships
conflict
communication
Mood
reflective
hopeful
cautious
Type
philosophical
relationship
advice
When to use this quote
- marriage counseling
- long‑term partnership
- daily disagreements
- jealousy management
Key Concepts
attachment theory
emotional intimacy
psychology
Questions to Reflect On
- What underlying issue might a recurring argument reveal?
- How can you turn a quarrel into a deeper connection?
A Different Perspective
Superficial arguments may mask serious problems, requiring honest dialogue.
