Children Quote by Stephanie Coontz
“When parents are educated about how not to involve children in their conflicts and co-parent amicably, a lot of the ill effects of divorce can be alleviated. Divorce is always painful. But kids in a high-conflict marriage or low-conflict but contemptuous ones are often better off in the long run when the parent can disengage.”
About This Quote
Source Book: Marriage and Divorce in the United States, Stephanie Coontz, 2016
Educated parents who avoid involving children in conflict and co‑parent peacefully can reduce many negative impacts of divorce, especially in high‑conflict or contemptuous marriages.
In simple terms: Parents’ calm co‑parenting lessens divorce harm.
Key Takeaway
Teach parents to stay neutral and supportive.
Themes
family dynamics
divorce impact
co‑parenting
child welfare
Mood
concerned
hopeful
Type
advice
educational
When to use this quote
- family counseling
- parenting workshops
- legal mediation
- school support programs
Key Concepts
conflict resolution
emotional intelligence
parental disengagement
Questions to Reflect On
- How can parents maintain neutrality during heated disputes?
- What support do children need after divorce?
A Different Perspective
Even with neutral co‑parenting, children may still experience emotional distress and adjustment challenges.
