Cybersecurity Quote by Stan Tatkin
““Devote yourself to your partner's sense of safety and security and not simply to your idea about what that should be. What may make you feel safe and secure may not be what your partner requires from you. Your job is to know what matters to your partner and how to make him or her feel safe and secure.””
About This Quote
Source Book: "Wired for Love", 2016
Safety in relationships comes from understanding and meeting each partner’s unique needs, not personal assumptions.
In simple terms: Safety is partner‑specific, not assumed.
Key Takeaway
Learn and respond to your partner’s safety cues.
Themes
relationships
security
empathy
Mood
empathetic
supportive
Type
therapeutic
relationship
When to use this quote
- couples therapy
- conflict resolution
- intimacy building
Key Concepts
attachment theory
communication
Questions to Reflect On
- What does safety mean to you?
- How can you discover your partner’s safety needs?
A Different Perspective
Assuming safety can cause neglect of partner’s needs.
