Marriage Quote by Stacey Scott Mae
““What I expected of my wife was an internal locus of control. I did not for one single second control or want to control one single thing that she did or didn't do. I hoped she would do these things because SHE wanted to do them, because they were the choices that she made in HER life ON HER OWN. I believed with all my heart that she was free, that we were free, to do as we pleased when we pleased to do it. We make our decisions and we roll with the consequences. If she didn't want to be a mother or didn't want to be a wife than I expected her to be honest about it, to say it, so that we could take steps and bring reality into line with our mutual desire.””
About This Quote
Source Interview: Personal essay, date unknown
The speaker values a partner who makes autonomous choices, expecting honesty about life decisions rather than control.
In simple terms: He wants a partner who decides freely and tells the truth.
Key Takeaway
Respect autonomy and demand honesty.
Themes
autonomy
honesty
relationships
personal freedom
Mood
reflective
thoughtful
Type
advice
philosophical
When to use this quote
- marriage discussions
- career choices
- family planning
- personal boundaries
Key Concepts
locus of control
self-determination
authenticity
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you handle differing desires?
- What if honesty leads to conflict?
A Different Perspective
Assumes both partners share identical values of freedom, which may not hold.
![“I don't like being away from home. That's one reason why I don't work as much as I used to [when I started my career], because so many things are on the road. I just don't want to be away from my husband, my dogs and my home. I don't sing that much any more because that also takes you on the road.” quote by Jane Powell](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/img-quotes/07c/jane-powell-36243_away-from-home_i-don-t-like-being-away-from-home-that-s_278.jpg)
